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The essence of kink, it is to originate actually not self-confident to oneself.
Why to meet kink, no more than is to cannot bear consequence and loss.
Kink person the one side that sees the thing is bad forever and the one side that cannot see the thing is good.
Kink person it is the kink when facing a choice not just actually, in fact, after doing everything, be to regret, the ability when choosing the next time so more kink.
Why can you regret? Because he can see the bad place that become forever, and choose oversight good place.
Allow when to be awaited so, he can regret, greet in regret the next time more kink, more regret... go round and round. So you saw what he does very kink, not not kink when.
Major kink person have or a pair of severe parents, they can see the child forever " bad " , and choose oversight to good place.
Caused the child so such also him look upon, feel oneself are done not quite well forever, regretting forever, be in forever kink.
Actually, you can discover, if you just pay close attention to the bad place that you become, no matter what you chose to be able to regret, because be done not have on this world perfect, you chose A, forgoed the profit of B, when you realized A, you can regret to missed the profit of B.
So kink person of need is to build self-confident heart afresh, him reappraisal: Those who review oneself grow history, life makes check think the place that be proud, ask again beside love you truly, the person that can give hope, are you how person? You can discover, you are done not have so poor, you still are worth to be him pride very much!
Pay close attention to actively to oneself next: Had paid close attention to forever. For instance you chose A, you are about to see the advantage of A, and the advantage of oversight B, learn with vulpine gentleman, those who have the mouth is sweet grape, and those who do not eat is acid.
Want to be brave in to bear consequence finally, you should understand this world wants to have a choice only, must bear consequence, the choice of your instantly is best, be worth you to bear a few bad consequence for this.
Self-confident, positive attention, be brave in to bear consequence, the life that can let you not kink!
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? Wang Hongmei, the country is advisory division of 2 class psychology, intermediate vocational guidance division. Academician of Chinese mental hygiene, expert of association of Chinese mental hygiene tells division reader. Be familiar with cure of psychoanalysis, family, narrative therapeutics. Be good at a domain: Spouse concern, parentage, human communicate.
