The basis is inscribed advocate what raise a question, if party has been been by hospital diagnose gregarious and scared disease so no longer simple psychology can solve this problem, more belongs to neurosis kind the cure of problem need doctor. But, certain psychological knowledge also can is opposite of the neurosis problem of later period cure the positive auxiliary effect with rise certain, because this this problem angle analysis from psychology is OK,the perspective from human relation serves as cut a point.
Human relation is a kind of person and person be built gradually in social association and develop the relationship that rise, and the relation in this more it is to mirror each other the degree of the close sex that the psychology between concerns, harmonious sex and consistence. Live in the society, the truck concern of people has relative relation, friend relation, classmate relation, service concern to wait mostly, these various and complex relations also interweaved a giant and multifarious social communication network, amid must abide by everybody particular principle talent accomplishs be more than equal to a task truly. Psychologist Ao Erbo thinks good human relationship is formed especially, must experience the following 4 phase: The first phase, directional phase, of the human association of this phase is the attention that keeps in association object and choice phase, be in the human phase of preliminary understanding and communication; The 2nd phase, affection explores level, in view of the preliminary understanding of on one phase, can produce each other the affection between is resonant, bilateral communication is increasing, begin to have certain self-betrayal, but talk content still won't touch each other privacy; The 3rd phase, feeling communicates level, the human relation of this phase had had the change of qualitative travel, both sides is having good human and safe sense and trustful feeling, talk content is self-betrayal not just, and the content that still can involve more ego aspect, right now affection investment is more deeper; The 4th phase, stabilize association level, the human relation that enters this phase commonly has been a kind of relatively mature, solid truck concern, each other psychology consistence, harmonious sex and close sex are more thorough, the individual domain topic of the high privacy that is in the bilateral conference of this phase to share each other, the life space that is like an individual and belongings. The common law that knew progress of each other concern in human association while, still should master certain association principle, of any human relations building should be with equal, accredit, understanding, ego protection, mutual, association is mixed look look principle is a foundation, such ability form benign, health and interactive human concern.
Altogether, problem advocate can behave according to the specific symptom of party, after the relevant content that meets human concern scientificly, adopt the pattern that fits oneself to establish his human relationship, want to hold to oneself principle and bottom line only actually, master certain association skill, in blending in association process actively, believe to be able to solve a problem very quickly.
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