How is conquer protracted disease?

Inside psychological category, what we discuss is protracted, those who point to is people of those active choices, not rational, long-term protracted action (Steel, 2007; Solomon&Rothblum, 1984) , namely the negative result that people knows perfectly well a likelihood, still still choose protracted action however. This also is common of the place in people mouth say " protracted disease " .

Investigate discovery, the American adult of more than 20% may be long-term and protracted person (Ferrari, 2010; Block, 2003) . And this proportion is higher in student group, make an appointment with those who have 80%-95% to think in school undergraduate he have protracted problem, the person that has 50% among them thinks long-term and protracted caused huge to perplex to oneself (O ' Brien, 2002; Day, mensink, &o ' Sullivan, 2000) .

A lot of people think, this kind chronic protracted, because,be the lazy, ability that runs because of devoid time, or because some of person does not become the time of other purely,be time. In fact, chronic protracted do not have so simple, often result from however the psychological problem of deeper administrative levels. How to overcome serious protracted illness? I think, before implementing all sorts of overcome methods, an important thing makes clear him namely the deep-seated reason of serious and protracted backside.

It is 7 common meetings cause our protracted cause below.

1.You have the strict to your requirement parent when one height

A research of Dr. Timothy Pychl discovers, if the child is by absolute, severe father / the mother is brought up grown (more common in the relation of the girl and father) , always be subject to by the requirement, and experience warmth rarely, so work more easily after the adult protracted.

Timothy Pychl says, protracted greatly, it is the behavior of a kind of passive attack actually, will revolt other to be controlled to his with this.

2.You fear to succeed

This reason sounds and protracted it doesn't matter concerns, but some moment, people works dilatory it is intended actually, the behavior that makes fun of petty trick, just worry because of them, finish the task outstandingly to bring a trouble instead.

Cognitive travel says to treat division Dr. Pamela Wiegartz, people always is missing able person should do more work, because if you are done too well, can assume more responsibility, bear taller expectation. For example, if the boss that you worry about you thinks you are very capable, can give your more difficult, heavier work, and still can expect what you finish is better.

3.Your fear fails

Fear to succeed unlike somebody, also because somebody fears fail and protracted. People always wants to wait " ready " just begin to work, perhaps hope " do slowly " , because once begin,worry, or after the thing is become just test and verify oneself incapacity. But slow worker worker always does not give skilled work, because be met to unsuccessful fear as time elapse and deepen gradually, the likelihood yields your accomplish nothing instead.

4.You do not wish to admit your weakness

In a research that Russia straps ridge city to establish an university, have a very good case: One reads very slow schoolgirl, received the job that reads a few long articles. Read need help because of what she does not wish to admit her, fear others can feel she is stupid again, then protracted all the time, do not go reading these articles.

To be avoided meeting to oneself weakness optionally, we choose protracted and certain job. And this kind of behavior that escapes a gender can make your weak point weaker.

Also some of person often works dilatory to finally. Because if this is planted,the circumstance falls, they still do the business be bungled, can explain because time is close,saying is, is not his ability difference.

5.Your time idea needs to adjust

One considers to discover recently, when the date of expiration of the task looks and current date is close to more, you more not easy and protracted. And if the difference of date of expiration and current date looks very big (be not actually perhaps such) , easier protracted.

The people that participates in an experiment is in controlled below the age, income and the circumstance that accuse ability variable oneself, imagine they have a new life, be informed, the child will be in 18 years (or 6560 days) junior into the university. Result, the person that those the accused tell 6560 days begins early to put money, those the accused know 18 years after knowing after person criterion, become aware. This explains, will weigh time with the day, let a person feel future is more pressing.

We are to the perception of time very not objective, accordingly we often have this kind of feeling " seem to very long time goes finishing the job obviously, how to arrive suddenly before " . What can cause us to the illusive perception of time is protracted with hurry-scurry.

6.Blame is black namely white (All-or-Nothing) thinking formulary

Why are those placed to oneself reduce weight does the person of 20 jins of targets succeed very hard? Because this job sounds too formidable. Accordingly, every time when you recall this job, the first reaction feels it is very difficult namely finish inside very short time, after can turning this job till the cows come home.

The person that has this kind of state of mind always puts the emphasis of attention in " 20 jins " on, and not reduce weight the task that regarding is a whole, successive perhaps process. People often says these people, want " one impediment becomes fat person " . Beyond the mark " result orientaton " the person is easy and protracted.

7.Devoid ego is shown loving care for (Self-compassion)

A research on periodical of Self And Identity shows, those are chronic protracted person, bigger than not protracted person pressure, even if is had not begun to pull delay time in them, had begun insecurity.

These person classics regular meeting have the idea of type of defeat of a few ego, tell oneself ceaselessly for instance, "I accuse force oneself too poor, just brush screen to waste time on gregarious network all the time so. " and consider to show, this kind of self-criticism can accentuate instead protracted.

In him recognize because why be planted,be after all after the protracted behaviour that psychology causes, we may need preexistence mentally " overcome " it. Psychologist people some closer year how to also solve in attention protracted this one problem,

1.Straight face oneself

If you always fear to fail, fear to be criticized and be mocked, do not be willing to face oneself weak point, better way is not to want to always feel others can mock you, however straight side issue, seek a help. For instance, if you read ability to have drawback really and you think you need to rise, so compared with fear, escape with protracted, the blemish that better way is him recognize, regard it as a challenge goes finishing, perhaps seek outside help to wait a moment, will solve with other way.

2.Ponder over the award after the task is finished

Psychologist Pamela Wiegartz suggests, you ponder over a thing should morely to had made the profit that can bring, for instance, if you on time, finish the job well, can help you obtain more resource, for instance, take more stake, higher position is acquired in company or school, win the appreciation of others and respect, also make you more self-confident. In the meantime, when you gain tiny success really, do not feel oneself leave bigger target very far still, celebrate each oneself small victory in time.

3.Decompose the task

The research that is aimed at Pre-crastination gives us in order to inspire: It mirrors instead, people always is more apt achieves the goal that leaves his closer, easier it seems that (short-term goal) , can feel in order to accomplish to the person ceaselessly so.

Accordingly, be not for resistance black namely white (All-or-nothing) the influence of thinking formulary, the pattern that can disclose the task with the attempt will finish the job. Will big target is decomposed after be little job, people can feel every job is finished more easily, be finished can more pressingly, the achievement feeling after finishing helps people achieve ultimate old goal stage by stage again. For instance, if you want to decrease 20 jins, you are OK the job that set reduces hundreds of calorie everyday, such, the target appears easier operation.

4.Change timing way

If preamble place says, experimental discovery is tried people think same a time span, if use a day to express, meet it seems that speedier arrival. For instance, if your task is,begin from August 2015, end to wanted to finish in October 2015, you can say to oneself " the time that I have 2 months goes finishing the job " , you also can say to oneself " I have time of 60 days to finish the job " . Consider to discover, with " day " regard time calculative as the unit, than reinstate " month " regard time calculative as the unit, people begins more easily to execute the mission, because you can feel " day " than " month " shorter, date of expiration leaves nearlier. From this, investigator suggests to use plan day, fall even plan the means of the hour lets him decrease protracted.

5.Institutional self-love

Always do not criticize oneself, the advantage that is good at him discovery, the first pace that admitting his is a change. Oneself tell when facing the task: I agree to will surely go.

Study a proof, those know self-love, taller to him evaluation person, also meet more self-discipline, can better him control, won't abandon easily below the situation that faces difficulty.

Above. Wish everybody can overcome a bottom of the heart " protracted " small devil.

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