How to become channel understand person?

Person of so-called channel understand, namely method is changed " hard open one's mouth " for " blurt out " , change " exaggerated " for " invaluable advise " person, can receive the ball that gets others to be cast already, can drop the ball that the other side receives so that live again. So, how to become channel understand person?

The distance holds undeserved, often cause the trouble of human association easily. The distance is excessively long-distance, become easily force at the person; The distance is too close, become easily officious. And " force at the person " and " officious " the mood of the essence that common feature depends on consider an issue without suit practically and party. Because this often can make,the other side produces intense repellent psychology. When this asks we are being communicated with the person, want to hold very human distance. When communicating, stay in elaborate factual condition, or it is to convey next subjective feeling to suffer, and do not give opposite party " next final conclusion " " next commands " .

In communicating Cheng, be sure to keep in mind to listen more, look more, make clear the intent of the other side first, and proper to communicating each respect such as the mood of the object to have understanding, say less, little make known one's position, little doubt, prevent undesigned injury or be to cause other needless misunderstanding and contradiction.

Though want to consider the other side,communicate, also cannot not have self-awareness completely. It is OK that this asks we are in say " good " when, say " good " ; Say in this " not " when, say " not " . A lot of people express to refuse very hard, when the concern that becomes the other side and oneself especially is finer, and after agreeing, we should are in charge of as a result for its again, if result not beautiful, the responsibility that avoids possibly still hard takes on or be other. So, when feeling to refuse hard because of feeling for favor, first from objective and actual set out, whether does the other side need him to provide a help certainly, and oneself are capable to time completes this work, integrated consideration is making a decision. It is responsible to oneself, 2 be not protracted because of oneself reason the opportunity that the other side can find so that other helps originally.

Actually, a lot of people understand the communication reason in human association, but actual not know what course to take. The communication skill of the full of beautiful things in eyes in the answer of other people and book emerges in endlessly, but if party does not go with real operation,practice, so, it is be an armchair strategist after all, at human and devoid good. Zhu Hao!