Do you agree with your child to be loved early? It is normal that you feel the child is loved early?

I am Xiao Yuan, 2 class psychology refers the country division, China psychology of academy of big application psychology seeks advice from division

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Answer a question first, it is normal that I feel the child is loved early, if the child is loved early, we should be given priority to with openly education, discuss the principle of the advantages and disadvantages that loves early and processing with the child, if the business is growing position healthily, let him child handle, if deviate is normal orbit, parent intervening interpose, because we are the child's guardian, this is our responsibility.

Love early those who point to is minor men and women build love to concern or sexy to different interest, spoony or dark love, foreign language Puppylove/ Calflove. Love early point to commonly did not enter the love that the university produces between the following adolescent, be born in the middle and primary school of school especially.

Adolescent of this paragraph of period gives birth to tonsorial Yo to quicken, and in recent years, adolescent development has the tendency that shift to an earlier date. The maturity on physiology makes they produce an adult to feel, and the progress of mentally is relatively slow make they still are in half mature condition, the sharp change on physiology is pounding psychological development, make development of body and mind lost a balance, adult feeling and the condition of half maturity are the source that psychological activity generates a variety of contradiction. When facing contradiction and quandary, on one hand their independence consciousness is in growth, on the other hand they still get adult understanding, support and protection on hope spirit. The characteristic of this period also decided adolescent to be being loved early, we should use understanding, dredge and the method that guard appropriately.

Circulate on the net a kind of view, say abroad is inspected be like,love early play house, what Take It Easy, your Life, your Choice, did not love this idea early, be like the parent to intervene child Tan Lian loves, lag behind namely, like turning over human nature, this is one big misunderstanding. The author is away on official business in the United States during, see be in on TV broadcast adolescence to teach a program, handgrip hand teachs adolescent, how to mix correctly the opposite sex interacts, due manner, formal, attention wants dot and principle to wait a moment, suffer inspire very big.

Because the daughter is shocking,father also sees on the program association, the extract that father intervenes strongly, ha! Whole world parents is same, this ability is human nature. If must say we and abroad have different word, that is abroad the person look upon that should become independent the child more, acting border border is clearer,

Relevant education is publiccer, more calm.

Another kind of extreme is, parent speak or act on hearsay evidance, if face archenemy, the association of excessive limitation child and opposite sex, often be just the opposite to what one wished so, have on psychology " Romeo and Juliet effect " , it is you object them interacting more, they should interact more, develop silently. Everybody has a few happiness in the heart. Although serve as the parent, also have no right to go gruffly destroys children even in the negative this happiness in the heart.

The parent should support open, admitted attitude, tell a child to be loved early and not disgraceful, this is the mankind's normal physiology psychology phenomenon, also be the one part that person development society interacts; Discuss the limitation that teenage body and mind develops with the child, the topic such as domestic responsibility, love; The advantages and disadvantages that loves the main task of discussion adolescence, early; The proper safe education, effect that identify and avoids undesirable ethos, undesirable adolescent, the principle of the processing that accuses.

If love closes chalaza,those who come is openly influence, for instance child disposition becomes more sunshine, more responsible feeling, it is above the student more attentively. This kind of feeling can acquiesce healthily undoubtedly.

If love concerns,take the negative effect that come. Include, child learning result drops for this, psychosis not beautiful, have the tendency that tries sexual relationship even, love is for follow the fashion only, or by the society hair of bad teenage influence is being exhibited make undesirable contact. Should sober processing intervenes even.

We more answering that regard children as an independent person, is not you is accessary the your content, control object that does not have him thought, any communication, should build on equal, esteem, open-eared foundation. Even if the child has wrong think of a way, err,finish sth affection. The support of the growing need time of children and outside.

Hope youth leaves the impress of children, it is a happiness that often remembers when to coming, still can recall, is not the regret that in thinking of a heart later, upsurges and pain. Every phase of life, have the happiness with every particular level. They are worth to be respected by people, caress.

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