There are a newses in TV the other day: Endure all kinds of hardships of a mom raises the son big, after son university graduates had the job very quickly.
But, he often does not work to resign to a month, always complain working job is onerous, want to rise early in the morning, want to work overtime in the evening, too bitter, too tired, be overcome.
Two years, be unemployed of ground of son feel at ease and justified is in the home, or gets online play dozen of game, or uses mom's not much salary to go socially beguiling time.
To mom censure, he speaks plausibly and at length the ground says: "If you cannot feed me all one's life, why be opposite as a child I so coddle? Why be opposite as a child I so coddle??
After this program broadcasts, a lot of parents were immersed in thoughtful, is this kind of potential crisis had in him home?
We always are saying present child is not sensible, but do not know however,be too good because of what we protect, do not make them sensible.
Want to let the child as a child bright logic can make allowances for parents for other consider, should let the child take bit of pain as a child, let their knowledge get terrestrial sufferings, know cherish know decent forgive.
Present child mostly very clever, but they fail to score the success in expect finally for the most part, the reason depends on them lacking psychokinesis, lack the spirit that holds to after all.
Children and teenager period are the fundamental phase of life, parents creates a few conditions conciously, begin to the child bear hardships education, very important, also be necessary.
"Bear hardships " it is a kind of psychology bears force.
How to let the child bear hardships, what kind of pain to take? Collect summed up the following, share with parents.
For example when the child learns to walk, always helping her up, intentional parents can discover, the time that the child place that the time that those children that always helping an exercise walk by parents learn to spend on foot practices than those oneself spends should grow.
The child is 3 years old, when going into the street, be about to let him help you promote a thing.
The child arrived 56 years old, be about to let him sweep the floor brush a table, tell him how to be saved with report, return the room that can teach them to arrange them.
The child goes to school, tell them a few simple safe knowledge, want themselves to go to school on foot, classes are over oneself come back, want him the expenditure of managing stationery.
The child after school, want him to buy food incidentally to food market, so that ease parental pressure.
The child lets wash in the festival wash closestool, know smelly and dirty the one part that is the life.
Let the child do rough work and hard work appropriately, know parents needs them to take care of.
The middle school on the child, want to had run oneself living cost, money with respect to so much, overspent can starve only.
Rear the child all sorts of life skill, let them have very strong start work ability.
The child is controlled 15 years old, want to he is in the home or work to the outside, exercise oneself, contact a society, education bears hardships spirit.
Parents wants be willing to part with or use to let the child take these pain.
Foster independent volition of the child as a child, reduce the dependence to other. Namely him child thing, oneself are responsible.
In the home, oneself finish oneself life daily life independently, clean oneself room, clear oneself article, on study, oneself think independently, finish independently, mentally should become independent.
The parent cannot replace the child to consider an issue, want him child to think, respect the child's opinion, such children can think a problem independently, can have definite idea, it is the child thereby the following success lays next foundations.
Parents bears hardships actively together with the childWant to know, know enjoyment father and mother only, it is impossible that education goes can " bear hardships " of the child.
So parents can play morning to run with the child, attend athletic sports, if play a ball game together, swim together, travel together, can increase the chance that communicates with the child so, let the child get taking exercise likewise.
Can bear hardships of the every little bit in coming from daily life accumulate, come from a small business that does not have compromise concede.
For instance, weather is very cold, the child does not plan to go today nursery school. Parents does not indulge the child, carrying cold wind on the head to taking the child to go nursery school.
Burning sun sorching, come home in the evening very tired, parents is met and child resembling rushs usually euqally cool, is not to touch the pillow to sleep.
The child and parental ran, again ten meters are about to arrive at booked terminus, the child is panting not to want to run again. Parents is encouraging the child, go straight towards terminus together.
Stake of this one stake, exercising go through the mill to wear the child, make they have strong volitional quality, make they can bear hardships.
Cherish the child the more, should strengthen him more " bear hardships " education. Let the child eat bit of suffering to suffer bit of pain, just be true care and responsible.
For instance, do not wish to get up in cold winter when the child when; Finish hard when the child when a handiwork is made; Jump to dog-tired finally hour when child skip; Finishing the housework inside the portion to live when the child, when young associate will look for him to go out to play...
These are to exercise the circumstance that bear hardships.
This moment, of family of child need parents encourage, revulsive and lash.
Requirement child holds to the thing that finishs to be being done, requirement child insists to make a fight with difficulty.
Actually, the spirit that bear hardships comes from this final gnash one's teeth to hold to in.
To the child bear hardships education, want to pay attention to means method, "Tiger Mom " , " wolf pa " , " accipitral pa " inadequacy learns.
Parents needs to estimate what the force that the child bears hardships just bears hardships all right after that to teach first; Need to respect child desire and do not force a command; Need to earnestly practise what one advocates produces the effect of example and cannot move the mouth to not do a hand's turn needs to perserve and cannot expose to the sun only 10 cold
The way with long life should rely on themselves to go, difficulty also must rely on themselves to solve. Sooner or later, they themselves should face this society, bear domestic responsibility.
Especially the boy, to the man of a future, hard-working the Li Shizhi that is him this, without hard-working spirit, he is destined to face the social competition that competes increasingly hard.
Let the child take bit of pain, stand bit of turn from side to side, it is to be their life journey in the future to go smoothly smooth, what do store can the preparation of labor force.
After letting them step a society, in harships life, realize oneself value adequately.
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