Have child say: "The letter is bordering on justice, yan Kefu also. Respectful be bordering on a ceremony, far disgrace also. Because do not break its to kiss, yi Kezong also. Yi Kezong also..
Have child say: "Keep promise must accord with morality and justice, ability fulfils commitment. Respect must accord with the requirement of the ceremony, ability is far from disgrace; Accordingly act can make a family member harmonious, also be worth to follow the example of. Also be worth to follow the example of..
Ren Yili wisdom letter, lukewarm fine is courteous frugal, it is the value pursuit of the Confucianist. Justice the concept that is a very wide extensive, can accord with Yu Tian make known to lower levels even if justice, the morality accord with matters concerned also is justice, rational behavior also is justice. What is a letter, the letter is sincere letter. Sincere be sincere at the heart, the letter is a letter at the person. Send the word from the heart, also can cash over other, namely " the letter is bordering on justice, yan Kefu also. " why to say in that way? The ancients is begged, "The path of the university is in obviously heart " this is bright heart. "Path can, special path; Renown but renown, special name " this is the law between heaven and earth. Arrived Song Ming a Confucian school of idealist philosophy of the Song and Ming Dynasties, the argumentation of a speech or essay that place of new Confucian school goes after, it is the law of this heaven and earth and the union of bright heart. Why to send the word from the heart to be bordering on namely justice, namely accord with at manage? The sexual be apt to that this is the Confucianist is talked, everybody is born and have kind. Also be king Yang Ming send conscience. We go according to our conscience is accord with Yu Yi. If we are right other is affirmatory a thing, ourselves heart is inimical, can you come true? It is incapable for certain.
Deferential, it is the esteem to other. But also want seemliness. Be in if the ancients saw an elder brother a ceremony to father, it is deferential and excessive, not accord with Yu Li. If saw an emperor a ceremony to father, it is deferential inadequacy. So, respect is not to want reverent and respectful, want to divide a circumstance, cent person will apply. What is a ceremony? Make the relation between each other proper namely, each other are comfortable. Respect also should be such, soft in the belt is firm, firm in the belt is soft.
The Confucianist pays attention to put oneself in the place of another, oneself were accomplished push again reach another person. Administer a country of neat home of alleged cultivate one's morality makes the same score the world, arrange logically by this namely push. So, letter and respectful can master what degree, namely first from will examine all round family. What is the standard? "Do not break its to kiss " , namely Qi Jijia.
Our speech works should send from the heart, not rant, accomplish syncretic of knowing and doing hard. And our place should close all right degree. Do not cross low because of failing, do not be fond of because of succeed and passing. The life is material not just is promotional, also be a cultivate oneself according to a religious doctrine of ego. Grow won't accomplish in one move, those who need time accumulate the harden oneself with the thing. Young when work more, we just can be in what a certain age lives do not even more for nothing obviously quadrature.
