Everybody has former unripe family, have the member of former unripe family, we want inevitably to grow and develop in our former unripe family, scrape up lays the psychological foundation of lifetime.
Although the some day in the future, we can leave former unripe family from physical distance, but in mentally, we are not done forever, our psychology and behavior always are meeting and the connection that give birth to domestic existence countless ties formerly.
Concern the real situation of former unripe family so, we cannot not know, for instance, the following 3 truths.
1, former unripe family is a whole, everything is the result of interactionFormer unripe family is a whole, all members in the home are affected each other, bring up jointly. That is to say between domestic member, not be simple addition, affect each other however, the individual character of a person is formed with the individual character with other member closely related.
It is parents affected you not only, you also affected your parents, not only your brother elder sister affected you, you also affected your brother elder sister, you are a whole, the occurrence of any person or change, can exist to another make an impact.
Stand in you of course locally, for the angle from a baby, child, parents will be older to your influence.
In be being modelled because of your psychology, and of parents had shaped.
But when you are born, itself contains proper temperament (psychological professional term) , namely your extraordinary. How does parents of your inherent temperamental meeting influence treat you.
Affairs of human life expects hard, a lot of people and thing are met content is person blame, former unripe family can produce a lot of things, go especially, it is big family inhabit a region, a former unripe family can be a very complex existence.
The meeting in the family produces such as family member to die, or the thing such as divorce, crime, such thing is met by the adult in the home sedulous and evasive, conceal even, become the contraindication in be the home.
But this effect that the thing causes is met,undertake continually, meet even acting border is delivered.
For instance, a thing happening is over there your grandfather grandma, so the father that this influence can deliver you, and the meeting influence this thing delivers your father you.
Although you never use language or action to had behaved any information about this thing, but everybody squelchs painstakingly on consciousness, so subconscious in come out with respect to can breathed expression.
Because do not have a thing, neither one person can be without the existence of the trace, we will naturally be affected.
Write an article much, backstage of classics regular meeting receives a reader to leave a message, blame oneself former unripe family, recount the respective harm that oneself encounter in former unripe family.
For the angle from psychology, these harm exist really, as advisory division of a psychology I also understand really, but we are accomplished see, this one pace is OK.
We cannot again hold tight is worn do not put, because we want to decrease harm least, we must be in charge of for oneself.
To going, if we do less than excusing, we can choose to put down, go slowly cure heals.
If do not see, do not put down, cure happens impossibly more.
Anyhow, about giving birth to a family formerly, it is a big topic, we this column, still can update iteration continuously, go with your accompany.
