Chinese adage says: "Without custom, do not become circumference. Do not become circumference..
The Chinese likes to say: Give the established practice on the child. Actually we are willing to say more, that makes the child " habitual nurturance " .
From ancient up to now, the education of domestic abroad everybody had said similar point of view: Educational core just does not impart knowledge, learn to be an upright person however.
Confucius says: If,become less nature, the habit becomes nature.
Xie Shengtao says: What is education? Say toward simple respect, it is a word only, want nurturance namely good convention.
Luo Su says: Life happiness depends on the nurturance of good convention. As a child nurturance is good habit, good quality likes a nature same indestructible.
The habit is a person is deposited in neurological capital, one individual nurturance is used to well, all one's life exhaustless its accrual; Nurturance a kind of bad habit, repay all one's life not clear its debt.
Inchoate education spends education of 1 kilogram force = later period to spend 1 ton force.
Winner of nobel prize of world each country met in Paris 1988, somebody asks science of a Nobel award winner: "In which university, which lab did you acquire you to consider as the mainest thing? "In which university, which lab did you acquire you to consider as the mainest thing??
This grey-haired old learned man replies: "It is nursery school. "It is nursery school..
"What thing can be you acquired in nursery school? "What thing can be you acquired in nursery school??
"Separate oneself stuff to young associate people, the thing that is not oneself does not want, the thing is put orderly, before having a meal, should wash his hands, err thing should apologize, rest quietly after lunch... "
The answer of unexpected explained directly young when nurturance is good the effect that the habit has to person lifetime and far-reaching influence.
Young when the optimal time that is education habit. The education that cheeper is used to, be recumbent parents mostly set an example and guide.
The child is a natural stone, whether can sculpture becomes elegant work, kongfu still is in every parent.
1.Begin the education of civilized habit from the language.
Gorky says: The language is the clothes of all things and thought. We hope the child will come is one knows the person with courteous, cultured, polite bearing.
From the child the sun of quack be born rises, he begins " mad " the ground learns a language to the environment of the life, what does old people and he say, what there is between old people, he does not divide overall of ground of stand or fall to absorb.
Be in then learn to speak when, before beginning ceaseless practice, acquire, all sorts of terms that studying ceaselessly now are mixed a type.
A child is from " thank, please, I am sorry... " the road that the language that these ordinary everyday terms begin him grows.
If parents is ferial,conversation is gentle polite, plus kiss in the future child read many lis contact work of poetry, classical, literature to wait to the child, so the language of this child is repaired can differ for scarcely.
Nice language gift ferments slowly a conversation the good temperament with amiable, polite bearing.
2.From the regular convention that eats education child.
Taking food is to foster child regulation to be used to the mainest turning point. The parent can make from detail:
Teach the child to obtain the means of the chopstick correctly;
The ability after waiting for adult to move a chopstick eats;
The hand when having a meal is helping rice bowl up;
Swallow the meal in the mouth talks again;
When having a meal, do not want spurt mouth;
Drink Shang Shi not to give out noise;
Prohibit beating rice bowl with the chopstick;
Cannot change casually seat;
Cannot insert the chopstick in the bowl that filling rice;
Completely wants in the bowl after eating a meal;
When buying a rice, cannot say " beggar " or " want a bowl again " .
Having a meal is the thing that a child should experience many times everyday, pass so have a meal the regular consciousness of nurturance child, this turning point is very main.
3.Be used to with other and the socialization that humorous gets along.
The language is for gregarious and of the service, because of social need, we just should learn a language.
Present social intercede business, and the main index of business often sees affection whether be met gregarious.
Present parents has taken the gregarious ability that develops the child as a child seriously more and more.
Add up to disagreement group? Doesn't love love to play with the child? Share gladly with others? Be can be you bullied or bullied by other little girl? These are the problems that most parents pays close attention to.
At that time of parents set an example and guide appear particularly important.
You hope the child is to be happy to follow others communication, friendly those who get along, so above all parents also should do such person, edify oneself child.
And create an opportunity, look after children more go contacting various people, it is not just with age person.
In get along, guide the child and others friendly get along, help others, share with others, the feeling that considers others.
The time is long, change inside these good conventions in child heart, became naturally to not be a center with ego, consideration others is experienced, be good at communicating, the person that is kind to others.
4.Dress from oneself begin to develop labor habit.
Labor habit, it is a behavior habit that should develop as a child likewise.
Front courtyard of singleton the bride's side holds great majority now, parents often meets overprotection child.
Feel they are too small when the child is small, a few growner, feel distressed again the child is busy study does not have time...
These look on the life be like bagatelle to do sth for sb everywhere, such children lose the chance that he start work again and again, develop free-standing quality and style naturally hard.
Actually the parent does not think these life bagatelle not worth to be carried --
The child's free-standing consciousness is from clad, wear a shoe to wear socks to begin;
Sense of responsibility washs a bowl to sweep the floor from help father mother just about desk those who begin;
The ability that thinks independently is from own oneself life begins;
Self-confidence accuses his life to begin from relaxed palm just about.
So, let go let the child do, you can see a surprise slowly.
5.Wholesome habit is the foundation of lifetime health.
The education of wholesome habit is in again two respects, healthy dietary habit and good work and rest are used to.
Good body is all key, this more and more the self-identity that gets modern.
It is particularly important that the work and rest of cheeper period is used to opposite to cross elementary school level.
Was used to as a child when the child do each thing by dot ground on time: Get up, have a meal, drink a milk, on nursery school, motion, read etc...
Arrived to go up when elementary school ability controls oneself oneself study and life, more regular ground has recreation and study, achieve both balance.
6.Athletic habit is the assurance of lifetime health.
Life depends on motion. If should be moved,do not let move, go to school move more surely; Learn predecessor its activity, move go to school quite do not move.
Actually motion coordinates ability itself is a kind of important intelligence.
You perhaps want to be less than, pose of some pupil ran falls not quite harmoniously, easily, won't skip, sing run impediment of tone, speech, word is written badly to look, look clever study result to be inferior to however meaning, coordinate ability with the child's motion actually function of lack, nerve is maladjusted about.
Should spend cheeper period, motion is used to more ground is to help a person improve the health, the mood is cheerful, have active and hopeful good state of mind.
7.Reading a habit is the fortune of lifetime.
Now, people more and more self-identity education should be ego, the pursuit with continual lifetime, is not the school ten years in, the teacher engrafts those our knowledge.
The basics that ego teachs should have namely read a habit, initiative from nutrition of the derive in all sorts of books.
Present child book market is very more than flourishing before, all sorts of good books emerge in endlessly, close child reading concept also already more and more thorough popular feeling, receive the approval of a lot of parents, many parents had begun to be in Yo the carry out on the road rises all right.
Begin habit of the reading since education in cheeper period, many can easier than be fostered after manhood again, also can be in without in be being read manipulatively more discover reading joy.
When a thing have fun, so not far from the habit.
How does ability help child nurturance these good conventions? The parent is OK from the following 8 respects make:
Favorable environment.
Provide fixed, quiet, favorable learning environment, let the child step devoted study to have a person's mind of atmosphere whole body into this environment.
Patient guiding.
Tell the child the reason, let their understanding why want to develop these habits. Be in when the child when the problem is being encountered in fulfilling the process that is used to education, patient ground guides them, do not expect to succeed, patient for many times ability is OK.
Praise in time.
When what do when the child is good, must praise them in time, letting them know is which specific action is done well, be worth to praise, enhance the child's self-confidence, stimulative habit nurturance.
Set an example goodly.
Parents lets the habit of child nurturance, saw oneself whether also be accomplished above all. Teaching by one's own example excels explain in words forever, some truths say a lot of times, do as oneself.
You want to let the child do a business dedicated undivided attention, you do not see TV become other issue at the same time at the same time; You want to let the child be far from the thing that does not do study of child of dispersive child attention, influence as far as possible in the home.
Determined manner.
In the process that develops a habit, do not deserve to close when the child, or when the effect is not ideal, parents must indicate his position stoutly, give the child dividing line, knowing some rule is must!
Tacit collaboration.
Parents above all the opinion wants to unite, not be before the child manner difference, have different opinion furtive communication discusses. Otherwise the face before the child, child of meeting block up is good habitual nurturance.
Draft regulation.
Fulfil the habit specific regulation and plan to carry out. Have a specific study time after school for instance, do not change at will; Other issue is not done to wait as far as possible when learning
Add interest sex.
Comply with the child's nature, might as well as dry as a chip plan adds bit of interest sex.
For instance parents is mixed the child it is a match, OK to accomplish exchange award, do less than is about that exchange penalty to wait a moment. The means child that uses game is more recipient.
Rome is not one day building, the habit is not a day of nurturance. The adult forms a habit to still want 21 days, more nevering mention it is little child.
What do not want oversight life is daily, dribs and drabs is the inning that is used to in education child, a few more multi-purpose patience and love, will little sapling irrigates.
