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Have raise TV once transcribe crosses frequency of a nearsightedness, mention pass a barrier to kiss at Japan child the topic of apartment. Be in Japan, the child grows, still bubble with father mother bath, this is very common phenomenon. Look in them of this kind of skin is promotional family emotive in person a kind of very good method, this one phenomenon caused the heat of a lot of parents and expert to discuss. In our country, this is to make a person cannot understand what cannot accept it seems that.
Today, we talk about parents and opposite sex child to should get along? For the angle from development psychology, in the child all children 3 years old ago are opposite mom's special attaching. They can remember mom's flavour, not be when mom beside when can begin fluster, cry be troubled by feel without safety even. But can begin to produce change from this kind of attaching since 3 years old, the child can begin to be in love with oneself opposite sex parents, care about opposite sex parents to pay close attention to his, the rate that like. Can form the psychology of God of a kind of parents. To the boy, mom is example of his the first opposite sex. And to the girl, father is example of his the first opposite sex, right now father mother is exceeding to the opposite sex extraordinary.
Fuluoyide thinks, this kind of influence can continue very long period of time, locate to the sexual part of child future even, the acknowledge to the opposite sex, understanding, choose can produce the effect of different level occasionally. I affect these, return to be mixed actively inactive two respects, share together with you next. Positive aspect says for now, breath out psychologist of Buddha university children to discover, the child normally more the assessment that minds opposite sex parents. One shows in the light of the 20 investigation and study that make to 24 years old of schoolgirl place, in growing process, the feeling to the daughter, ego agrees with father to wait for a respect with social progress, have very great sense. As a child father female relationship is good, get father approbates the schoolgirl with affirmation adequately the meeting is more self-confident. Besides, parents of the opposite sex in the life in the child is the first opposite sex that they understand, so the child is mixed to all acknowledge of the opposite sex at first understanding comes from parents of Yu Yi sex this example, whether to have sense of responsibility e.g. father, courageous and resolute, the mother is considerate, meticulous in a subtle way, can affect the child's first to the opposite sex evaluation, it is prospective child even to the opposite sex expect or choose is watched occasionally.
Then we see negative effect again. 3 years old of turns that are a key period, the child is opposite in this moment sexual consciousness begins budding, his meeting faintly feels those who differ to the men and women is to have, and if right now parents does not have the sexual distinction that has discriminative to the child,teach, let the child live below the environment with a kind of ambiguous, punch-drunk sexual distinction, the meeting is adverse to the growing development of his individual. Additional, some children had arrived elementary school phase, the parent still cannot be determined to let the child divide a sheet to sleep alone, even the child cannot oneself a person sleeps, it is they fear to be in alone, a kind of expression of parents of beyond the mark attaching. Will tell from parental angle, also be one kind fears the psychology that the child breaks away from parental bosom to lose close sense. This is a model is close child the problem with unsharpness bounds.
Be aimed at this kind of phenomenon, above all, parents needs to adjust good intention condition, face up to the child grow, especially parents is right the close behavior of opposite sex child, need to had maintained a measure more, otherwise, if the child loves father overly to love a parent,can be opposite the process of their socialization, did not grow even neuter psychology brings negative effect. So, how should parents hold the distance that gets along with opposite sex child? The way that there is a few to get along here consults for you.
The first, begin from 3 years old, the parent should foster child men and women to have other consciousness conciously, when changing clothes for example, go up closet when, opposite sex parents wants evasive, do not contact the place of child privacy again, do not clean underwear briefs for the child again. The 2nd, be child of 5 years old needs and parental cent bed sleeps. The 3rd, many American psychologist think, parents is before the child moderately nude body is the sexual education that is helpful for the child, but Chinese investigator thinks this wants because of the person different, if be opposite,this thing of nude body feels factitious, that still is inferior to be not being done, because such, can let the child begin to produce a kind of strange feeling to opposite sex body instead, so parents need not come painstakingly project oneself. Can pass draw this, storybook is more natural, better off means undertakes the gender is taught.
Sum up, we basically discussed the following point of views today:
1. begins from 3 years old, consciousness of child bud sexual distinction, they began to produce different attaching psychology to opposite sex parents, because this parents is right,opposite sex child is having main effect effect.
2. has these effects classify, can divide the following: The first, opposite sex parents can promote the formation of child disposition, affecting their expectation to the opposite sex is choose idol view even; The 2nd, if opposite sex parentage holds bad, can produce a few negative effects to the child so; The 3rd, it is the get along principle that I and everybody shared parents and opposite sex child.
Today's share even if such, thank everybody listen, thank everybody.
