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" Dou Ting is good " in Su Mingyu's story was lifted about " former unripe family " the society discusses greatly, broadcast then again a drama of affection of marriage of type of bereft of one's spouse that is subject matter with middleaged husband and wife: " we had been close friends " .

Liu billows main actor is housewife " search " , elite of field of duty of Yang Shuo's main actor " forward " .

This drama is being defended in Beijing inspect and actor is sowed sultrily, on May 11, this drama ascends Top3 of pop chart of CSM52 city viewing rate, the forward, short video that searchs connubial brawl is become shake sonic boom money, achieve even more 20 million broadcast nearly 1 million bits of quantity, support. Relevant topic returns drama anthology for many times to go up valve of small gain of a list of names posted up, beans heats up search.

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" we had been close friends " cast first piece " full-time madam " the topic for discussion of predicament, offerred new solution around this one topic. This drama leaves since sowing, life of husband and wife relies on to take medicine, husband not to know a son to quarrel to liliaceous allergy, couple 3 words cannot leave " money " etc " plunge into a heart " the bridge paragraph, caused many audience resonance.

Drama anthology appears body to there is its reality rationality in two individual content now to human ginseng.

Forward to the husband for, to live superior life, have to go all out in work on the career hard, "Buy a flower to buy a bag to buy luxury money to from where come? Are you to want to become husband and wife of a pair of poor and lowly with me? Are you to want to become husband and wife of a pair of poor and lowly with me??

And the wife is searched think, "I have force you are earned come back how many money, what kind of life to give me? You just are proving in the final analysis yourself! You just are proving in the final analysis yourself!!

Netizen opinion shows polarization, a few think, the company in marriage is mainer than material, full-time madam is the one party with the greater sacrifice in the family;

Think a few more additionally, the husband is outer dozen go all out earn money not easy, it is madams want too much, actually can need not excessive " argumentative " .

In recent years, big female advocate, sweet bestow favor on, cruel loves those who wait for a variety of new theme to have one's moment, it is the arousal of woman audience self-awareness rear. The affection demand in the higher administrative levels that faces up to oneself, search life direction to go up, new era female erupted powerful travel motive force, and work of movie and TV is " her times " of mood of this one society projectile.

Making what the person feels disturbed is, such marriage is becoming more and more general.

Marriage of type of bereft of one's spouse, why can you exist?

Be in China, the marital relation of a lot of people works in the same place like the job same, division of labor is clear, each use up a duty, resemble " eat regularly in gets along " same. Looking at is husband and wife, but did not feel intimately. In such relation, all communication is routine, of functional sex, for instance:

Of course, if had,still is a very main talk subject after the child, talk about the child, still have the child's study.

In this kind of relation, two won't each other convey too much individual experience, more do not talk to go up interior communication. But it is normal that the life function of all families runs.

Yes, normal. Because look normal,be, so that windy feeling just does not know the bottom of the heart how to be answered, if such everybody call admired life you dissatisfactory, it seems that too do not know no matter in what way.

But if you noticed this windy feeling, the perception that means you still does not have fritter away after all, your heart to oneself and experience still retain sensitive, the thing that hope the experience is unripe and should learn originally for the person: Give out love, expressive love, accept those senses of love.

In such life, your brains is OK perhaps ego comforts: Such life is good still.

But the heart has a force to be in what uneasiness divides to emerge from beginning to end move, everywhere the outlet of the place that look for can lead to him soul the ceremony of proclaiming sb a Buddhist.

All affinity, can experience a few period, the first period, it is honeymoon period.

In honeymoon period, feeling warmth of very good, relation is sweet. Progress as the relation of one deepen, we begin to reveal our the seamy side gradually, also can have more wanting at the same time sue for peace expects. Then gradually, malcontent, contradictory, brawl began.

The 2nd phase that can enter a relation at this moment -- influence struggles period.

Here " the right struggles " not be to be in argue some kind of actual right, however two the individual's rich weichi, two people need in what contend for his should preferential be satisfied, for example, be understood, by support, by appreciation, be taken seriously, be taken care of to wait a moment.

Almost everybody has think oneself need, have enough and reasonable reason by preferential and contented. Begin to produce a lot of contradiction then, accumulate a lot of grievance, anger even the feeling of heartbreak.

The 3rd phase that can concern next -- deathly stillness period.

In this phase two people do not have too intense brawl eventually, this kind is apparently calm, not be the relation becomes close and reconcile, because be noisy,be only tired, the heart is cool, did not want to say.

A lot of people think oneself " put down " , in fact, this kind " put down " just be abandon helplessly after disappointment just. This phase looks be like calm, but inside in undercurrent is billowy. Be bitterly disappointed, everything becomes frosty.

Everybody is not clear: "My expectation is the need of my personification only, the other side pleases what I perhaps satisfy me to expect without obligation, what I need to do is to let his grow " . Feel however " what to say no point, you such, what did I hold in the arms to hope to you, can collect syncretic day is a day. Can collect syncretic day is a day..

In fact this is the opportunity that a very good ego reviews to grow with ego,

Because you can realize: Meeting somebody expects because of yours and be not changed.

What you begin to need to learn is: Depend on others to satisfy the longing that the heart is loved no longer, also depend on others to make his happy no longer, learn real him love however, is not outward capture.

But a lot of people did not capture this opportunity to come him augment, turn however and depress oneself the motive force with this immanent longing, original life that experiences love, aux would rather the restricted belief ego that uses a few rationalize persuades:

"Marriage so reply a thing " , " man / the woman is same " , " everybody not so over- " , " alas, calculated " , " had made do with so first " . . . . . .

The marriage of this phase, turned contented life function into a cooperation of need. Each other were not in this paragraph of relation those who obtain love is alimentary, such affinity cans be found everywhere in China.

Perhaps alien looks, the relationship of two people is good still, but party is actually clear, in this paragraph of marriage, what him heart longs that to be loved is empty never be crossed by cram.

When empty feeling and weak feeling come over, we feel this kind to escape, enter another kind of abandon state very easily, spoken parts in an opera a bit, it is easy addiction.

Or is planted to some thing, or is right a certain person.

It is so in the marriage of deathly stillness period, some make get into the habit artificially, make the work mad, ceaseless overwork is away on official business, some are to indulge network or game; Some people travel ceaselessly; Some people are right certainly child addiction, what turn the child into life is all.

Still some of person is opposite addiction of a certain opposite sex, be attracted, off the rails, perform the plot of a play of blood of a dog next.

Mix again another person metempsychosis honeymoon period -- influence struggles -- deathly stillness; Just every change a new person, the time of honeymoon period will be shorter and shorter. Likelihood and the first person are 6 months, the 2nd person has 2 months only, two weeks ended the 3rd person.

But, if party does not know oneself, can ceaseless metempsychosis such story.

A lot of people can be in this phase keeps deathly stillness period for a long time, resemble our father people of a certain kind that generation person, a lot of husband and wife and form of the other side resembled personal enemy passing all one's life euqally even with stranger, also do not divorce however, also do not change oneself pattern, arrive dead to did not graduate from this phase all the time, fail to go next level.

Be in so resentment each other in mutual dispute, fritter away the time of lifetime.

Dear friend, feel when you by " bereft of one's spouse " when marital box up, perhaps be you when needing to make a choice most.

The life standard of most person is very low, "Get along well " the top end that is their this all one's life. I edit as, classics regular meeting receives a kind of manuscript, how is the father and mother that says oneself hit fight noisely be troubled by make a noise about sth to spend lifetime, make oneself painful but do not have method again.

Those who do children always is deep feeling, this is true love! Cat-and-dog in just have true love.

But the article that I often see these spit groove, want to say: What is this " true love " ? , it is to made a noise not to use fritter away time just!

Real hardship, not be a series of challenges that face butt joint wants to come down after making a choice, however you cannot make real decision all the time, deeply worried for long in " should " or " not " between ego is used up.

Be immersed in oneself for long be in a dilemma, condition of or so pendulous, waste auspicious life in oneself for nothing in the character combat of all sorts of dissension, alien sees you eat and drink pull it is normal to scatter everything, what only yourself knows this kind of ego is used up is exhausted it is how painful.

It is the safest that a lot of people think not to make a decision, can the risk that avoid drops decision place to bring. In fact this kind of state that does not become decision refuse to budge to use up, can use up your precious life and hope, this ability is the biggest cost that you pay!

No matter you are decision change current situation, improvement concerns: Go communicating, go facing, go apologizing, go excusing; Still take out force to leave, taking bless and appreciate complete end a paragraph of affinity, very good.

Make a choice, the choice that is oneself next is responsible, than spending life, 100 times more ambitious.

No matter which kinds decide, once made a choice truly, you can feel relaxed break like that.

You can enter the companionate relation with brand-new the next period, complete and it is mature that the experience arrives, each other support trustful affinity.

And what you need to do is to take out force to make a choice, even if do not have force to also have nothing to do with temporarily, you still can learn grow seek support.

But absolutely not indulgent oneself stop for long with evasive manner here, also do not believe others tells you absolutely " such authority crossing, you still think how! You still think how!!

Dear friend, your bearer is worldly one time, not be to come of put up with.

You are worth to own the good concern with raw people on one's own side of not let sb down absolutely. So, take the advantage of everything there's still time, take the advantage of big time to still be in, the happy and genuine effort that is oneself!

If you want to find breach, pay close attention to Zhou Fan head date, illicit letter tells me your trouble.