Yesterday morning, receive king elder sister suddenly to make a telephone call, say a daughter two days this how to be willing to go to school, their husband and wife two think method is trashy also, let me advisory division of this spare psychology thinks way.
I ask reason rapidly, this ability is informed, in the midterm of firm end, the achievement that handsome pretties by class the first fell the 5th, achievement comes out that day, she returns the home to cry greatly:
" I already very effort, why is achievement met worse and worse? "
Handsome handsome feels that he cannot face the expectation of teacher and parent, do not be opposite oneself all the time the assiduous effort since, the mood breaks down nearly.
At present this small setback, it is very big blow unexpectedly to her, she does not approbate herself actually still very outstanding.
As parents, we hope the child did not come can plain sailing, but the life always has as meaning, studying result also is not the only standard that assessment child grows. How to help the child be in when encountering challenge or difficulty, can you answer actively not right, inactive escape?
Someone says, successful = intelligence quotient + affection business + go against business.
Promote the force of the child that fight defeat, ability of prospective competition capacity is stronger.
The force that fight defeat jumps over strong child, happier
Before this, daughter NeiNei of Wu Zun fails when playing ballet game, after the performance is over, neiNei hurts cry bitterly of a person's mind to rise.
NeiNei begins to learn ballet from 3 years old, special effort ground practices, but of hardships pay and did not change good achievement.
Nevertheless, after warm heart of Wu Zun is comforted, neiNei also is smiling to accept his certificate, swim happily with father together have dinner.
Say like Wu Zun, he wants to let the child come only experience, will absorb experience.
Although know the daughter wants to win very much, the feeling that lets her experience failure nevertheless also is not evildoing.
Because the process is more important than the result, she today's expression, had been worth him pride very much.
Although NeiNei was defeated in this match, obtained the joy that grow however.
Writer Qiu Wei ever said: " there is a kind inside every setback new likelihood. "
To the child, have the power that fight defeat, ability is clear temporarily be defeated win won't represent forever, can experience happy process, what outclass wins to be defeated is persistent. Just also can understand, happy, come from that one results after Yu Ting crosses a setback.
The force that fight defeat jumps over strong child, what did not come is further
Meet without who in the life forever plain sailing, the ability fighting defeat of a person, decide he can not go much further.
In one's childhood, neighbour home has a girl, parents divorces, she follows a mother to live together, the life although poor, but also be in harmony of its Le Rong.
It is when the girl is 10 years old, mom happens suddenly apoplectic, the life cannot provide for oneself.
The little girl with that paragraph of friendless time, bear a total heavy burden that takes care of a mother from now on, she classeses are over everyday come home, the station is worn platelet stool cooks wash a bowl.
The setback of the destiny did not Ko her, acquire high school as a child, her achievement is all the time in the class be among the best of candidates, be admitted by renown school finally.
Recumbent and tenacious perseverance, she walked out of the lair of life.
Develop the power of the child that fight defeat, it is the gift that gives the child childhood
A lot of parents think, the child is still small, fight the training of defeat force to answer from some more largish grab again.
Actually, resemble to lay the foundations same, jump over early education, the capability that the child answers a setback is stronger.
The experience of venture of many somes of brave when child childhood, can increase his experience not only, exercise his thinking, return meeting education to give more powerful heart.
Once the child was stripped the opportunity of the attempt, also be equal to was stripped the opportunity that make a mistake and grows in the mistake.
Exercise the child, make the child bold try, it will become the child to grow in the process, be worth the experience that is remembered.
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