Civil not green grapefruit of group of young lady writing
Edit tumbler young lady
Recently, the campus force incident of institutes of a Taiyuan normal school causes wide attention, after people sees the victim's state furious unceasingly. Before follow-up result comes out, here does not make more comment temporarily. This is not campus force the first, of course, this also won't be ultimate campus force.
Https://image.baidu.com/search/detail? Ct=503316480
At this late hour, go up in media by the campus force of exposure incident is already too much. We can't help wanting to ask, why are each other harmed bitterly between age person together?
About violating person1, the person that violate by excessive and doting and indulgent
Family of the person that a lot of violating is right the person that violate has excessive and doting appearance. In the child that grows in this kind of family, the parent can be in satisfy him as soon as possible for a short while / all her demand. Accordingly they had as a child only I alone honour feeling, in the family indulgent cause the child to think " I want should have, I override on you namely " , this kind of state of mind special go against them to grow socially. Accordingly, have a bit not satisfactory, or it is experience when the setback, they abreact anger very easily to other people.
2, observation study, imitate bad behavior
Psychologist class Du La has done a famous observation study test, the result makes clear: The action that sees others when people is rewarded, with respect to the action that can enhance this respect, the action that sees others is punished, can reduce this kind of behavior.
Become only I alone honour the child arrived to be opposite through observation study innocent person abreact the method of the mood, and when the person that those are violated was not punished, this learner adopts same way very easily to treat a victim.
Same, although we often see the story related campus ride roughshod over, but often can know victim susceptive hardship only, and the result of the person that violate did not see toward contact, news heat went. So to the very much person that violate newly, they are not deep to castigatory understanding, feel oneself won't be punished badly, lack again sympathize with a heart, because this is when other of ride roughshod over,take no account of consequence completely.
3, the low sense of responsibility in group force
There is only in incident of a lot of group campus force or a few leaders, the rest of the participator that is tracing ability more very. These participator do not have any be mixed and contradiction with the injured party even. They among them one person perhaps dare not carry out force alone, but be in the group, the sense of responsibility of people can be changed infirmly, think this is group action, do not assume overmuch responsibility with oneself, moral sense can be reduced. The bottom sense of responsibility in this kind of group gives the person that violate a kind " everybody such, I bully him together accordingly also it doesn't matter " feeling, dropped the moral bottom line of oneself completely.
The victim of campus force often is compared puny, compare with photograph of the person that violate, their or is having bigger difference on physical strength, or is more indrawn, farouche, also not be in daily life the sort of " the person that can protect oneself very much " , the person gives on whole a kind " good bully " feeling. In recieving the process that call in usually, I also discover, the probability that indrawn person is sufferring bully approach in one's childhood is a few higher. Although say, introvert itself does not have any problems, also do not need to correct. But because fear,oneself child is in the school " be bullied " , parents can force the child to alter his nature.
The person that violate often is swashbuckling, they can choose such target. Of course, because certain contradiction is brought about,also having a few is, but the means that from the victim's type we can sum up an a few ego to protect.
1, the intercourse face that enlarges you
Common saying says, many friends many road. In a lot of campus force incident, the person that a lot of violating forms a group, and the victim often lacks a friend because of introversion. So, in entering a collective, you can try to make a few friends more, let oneself there is existence to feel in the group, can decrease to be ignored to mix so be considered as " the weak " possibility.
2, encounter a problem, not blindly self-surrender
The person that a lot of violating is to take a fancy to victim self-surrender, won't revolt, just become aggravated the ground brings to bear on harm. Those who be in the school you although ability is limited, what also should believe oneself are a strong volume is individual, if encounter ride roughshod over, thinking " bear went " , the person that such self-surrender can let violate only more be insatiable, regard target of long-term ride roughshod over as you. Revolt necessarily so, the attitude that demonstrates oneself is necessary, of course, the kind that faces the person that violate wants to undertake neatly, also cannot blindly confront the tough with toughness.
3, bold the feeling that speaks you
A lot of children ever also had tried to be recounted with the adult when encountering ride roughshod over, but after getting very good response, end up with nothing definite. A lot of victim hearts are sensitive originally, they cannot get a response to won't go further after recount attempt, recounting itself actually is not an easy thing to them. But here, I think violent to campus victim says, when you and OK and trustful adult are recounted, must convey you boldly experience, can speak the detail that you encounter, the anguish of your heart, if say shallowly " contradict a little with the classmate " , the parent may think it into a bagatelle. So, bold the feeling that speaks you is very important.
4, strengthen take exercise, make the body strong rise
If your constitution is weaker, can strengthen so take exercise, make the body strong rise. Motion is more than can enhance physique, still can make the mood more free from worry, idea is more open. If be the motion of collective sex,still conduce to you handing in more to have deep love for athletic friend, the circle that make friend expands on the foundation that makes oneself strong.
Anyhow, campus force has been a problem that is paid close attention to generally by the society, we each person should is reduce campus force to exhaust a power. As the adult, if discover campus force incident uses up him,a force is organized, as the student, it is very important that the society has protected him, incident of hope campus force is OK less and less.
