Is friend of 3 days of visible meetings used up?
Nearly investigation shows, more and more people encircle a setting in the friend " 3 days are seen " , those who narrow the friend encircles a record examine limits.
Friend group appears " 3 days are seen " after the function, controversy is ceaseless all the time, the proponent thinks behoove protects privacy, and anti thinks to be able to be brought about " friend is used up " .
Want how to be done after all, ability makes the socialization in friend circle better, is worse?
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Protecting privacy is proper originally justice
Since friend group appears, the socialization that gives people really offerred a lot of. But at the same time, also caused a lot of problems. For instance the problem of privacy, safe problem.
All is not in friend circle is a friend, attend a meeting together occasionally, the first time it is very normal that meeting person adds a small letter, the likelihood has opportunity good-bye side rarely later, but mutual between can know the other side through friend circle however a lot of trifling matters of everyday life that involve privacy, if still also has calculated so merely, more troublesome is, have some of good friend that adds because of all sorts of reasons, can bring a series of troublesome, for instance privacy is divulged, be deceived etc, these year come, similar issue is very much, often can see on all sorts of media.
"3 days are seen " the function that answers place of this kind of circumstance to appear just about. A person encircles published character, image in the friend, fall very easily in him unwitting circumstance, be transmitted extensively, and once come out, trace a trail very hard, if individual privacy gets enroach on, be waited for by bilk accordingly even, investigate the duty of the person that divulge very hard as much. Of course, still have a kind of function, can the person in address book of small to any letter is installed " friend circle is sightless " , the truth also is same, it is the form differs only, one restricts whole circle on the function, one restricts an individual.
Be divulged easily besides privacy besides, still have a globaller problem. Friend circle is not personal diary this, however a gregarious media, space of a half common, but a lot of people are used to a friend circle to should make him record the place of life contrail, the memory ground of a personal data, accordingly, setting " see 3 days " , was equal to open friend circle to impose a restriction, oneself want to recollect a bit of the life, can examine the record that the friend encircles, but others cannot be examined, can see the state of instantly only. This also accords with memorial feature actually, interacting with the person is interactive, but memory is private.
The friend encircles a name to be a circle, but limits is very actually ambiguous, the person of friend, home, person of colleague, acquaintance, understanding, a nodding acquaintance is inside, this is put in an attrib border problem. In real life, the friend in the friend in family, life, job, border often compares clarity, each have each circle, but friend circle mixes these different circle for an organic whole, than the photograph that meets like a few families, send a friend in the circle, kin sees sure, but the friend in the job sees, the likelihood is improper, contrary, the thing in the job, kin friend also does not have fun at certainly understanding. So, trying to restrict is manage place ought to.
Friend circle is the child below new technology, when it just appears, inevitable meeting has a lot of inadequacy, can a lot of very specific requirement are satisfied hard. But the technology always is in progress, regulation always is in ceaseless and perfect, "3 days are seen " the function that arises after the trial and error that can regard as period of time, to now, more and more people begin to use this function, also prove it satisfied some kind of requirement in Internet socialization really. Of course, install to the individual " friend circle is sightless " also be such, adding newly is not a friend but the contact that has business relation, can use this function, should make small letter a kind contact means merely, resemble a short message same, also do not have cannot.
Of course, it is no matter " 3 days are seen " or " friend circle is sightless " , still be a kind of attempt, can be the expedient that solves a problem. Because it still is put in a lot of negative issues really, install for instance " 3 days are seen " , the likelihood causes misunderstanding to family member, good friend, think you do not respect them even, distrust they.
So, "3 days are seen " the choice that also is a be in a dilemma occasionally, it is safety of privacy of delimit border, give attention to two or morethings, still obtain the friend's credit, both between very difficult balance, be in probably future, after the technology develops further, solve this problem likely, but so far, still cannot see better method, can two kill photograph authority to take its light, friend misunderstanding, can explain, privacy is encroached, very hard thinking fors the time being, this also is choose of increasing person selected probably " 3 days are seen " reason.
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Encourage shut oneself violate gregarious principle
I think the friend is encircled all the time " 3 days are seen " it is an a faulty stroke in calligraphy or painting, because it violated the principle of gregarious media. Friend circle is friend circle, it is to build the base that believes in each other above all, if mutual distrust, afraid the other side encircles him understanding through the friend, does that still have gregarious sense? Be still a friend? Next, friend circle is open, also be this kind is opened, just formed favorable communication environment, it loses in case open, lost gregarious sense namely.
For new to friend, friend circle is the channel that knows the other side quickly undoubtedly, cross the friend ring that crosses the other side, can have an overall knowledge very quickly each other, a person encircles li of published image, character in the friend, the talent that sees this person very easily, thought, opinion, value, often send the script that achieves a gender formerly e.g. a person, usually, this person has talent quite. In the meantime, even if is not sent achieve content formerly, just reprint, OK also from inside reprinted content, understand one part disposition, be fond of to wait.
The record of the associate with in friend circle, it is one the individual's history. It and a national history are same, we pass the history of a country, how do can knowing this state go to today, same, through understanding one the individual's associate with, also can knowing this person roughly is after all what kind of, disposition how? Be fond of what? Tendency of interest, value is what kind of.
If friend circle was installed " 3 days are seen " , that is meant, in the friend's eye, this person 3 days before a blank, even whats did not write somebody, "3 days are seen " became complete blank. This deviated from the drive with small first letter.
Likelihood somebody feels some content do not suit to look publicly to everybody, this also is not to do not have other measure. Small letter also has relevant function, can chain some speech, also can be opposite alone a speech is installed in group, what person is visible, what person is sightless wait. I think this ability is the practice of an adult that bear the blame, just also be to have the show that take on. "3 days are seen " what be equal to not to let others understanding, below such circumstance, still want to become a friend with the family, it is not actual apparently. Conversely, a person opens the friend circle of a certain friend, the result discovers the other side was installed " 3 days are seen " , still further development knows this individual, the interest that makes friend with him? Friend circle can enlarge socialization originally, but " 3 days are seen " result rather, be equal to closed ego.
This is the business that is worth to be anxious very much, especially choose of increasing person selected " see 3 days " , also explain, current in our society, the liability that people ego closes is very serious.
Before two days just see a research, in saying to affect macrobian factor, one the most important is communication, a person has a lot of good friends, often have good communication with the friend, often easier long life. This actually very good also understanding, the thing speaks out, much communication, natural mood is carefree, at every turn does not say with the person, close to others, guard against, also close oneself finally actually rose, bring about depressed, mood very easily low wait for a problem, can affect health of course.
Why so much person has the problem of mental health now? Why modern is flimsier and flimsier, handling have on human relation so much simple and rough method, it is the problem that closes because of more and more ego in modern society, this is the social phenomenon that is worth to take seriously very much.
As to say " 3 days are seen " it is to protect privacy, I also not quite approve of. In fact, the information that next actuationly issuance exposes privacy more easily, and the information of associate with exposes privacy not quite easily. Played one day with the child for instance, under excitement, sent the picture of a piece of child, this is privacy of course, but pass two days to come down calmly, feel to be done so not quite appropriate, can try to handle, perhaps chain, perhaps delete, OK.
So, "3 days are seen " cannot protect privacy, can bring about ego to close only.
● compere says
Seek its friend voice, mo Feng old friend
" The Book of Songs " in say " bird of appearance the other party, still seek friendly voice. Shen Yi Ren, do not beg friend to be born? " means bird even needs friend He Ming, be a person what is more,the rather that?
But make friend this thing, gu Jin is difficult. Tang Chao's Meng Jiao plaints the ancients " appearance is like animal, there is holy mind inside " , today person " appearance seems a person, inside solid animal heart " , make friend became " but the form is oral hand in, bramble is born in abdomen " . After rise to power and position of a surname great, have hair is small will cast, a surname great is waited for with commoners cooked food, the result is sent small debunk real features, say to coarse food grain has outside a surname great, the hall after returning " hutch 5 vessels " , a surname great complains " meet evil objective rather, without meet old friend " -- the person that knows your associate with is very dangerous.
True friend is encountered hard, so people invents the gregarious regulation of a lot of be worldly wise and make oneself safe, be like " meet person but say a word 3 minutes " and so on, although have helpless part, but have some of small home after all child gas, too Babbitt.
Modern society, technical progress lets socialization become simpler, but also more make friendship more complex, the upper limit that the friend encircles has 5000 people, how many is having the friend that deserves credit? So, proper ego is protected, not fathomless.
Nevertheless, still have some of regret, life is alive, always want minister light a bit " the thing of all one's life, have no cannot with person character " magnanimous, always want a bit Lu Xun " forget everything terrible, roar one's innermost thoughts and feelings " personal feeling, just live racily.
This edition chairs Zhou Huaizong
