The person that love is less than is decisive let go, can be you accomplished?

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About " have a kind of love, be called let go " this word, a lot of people had listened to most propbably, also somebody was done so in love. Our common practice is: Love a person but cannot get, the choice retreats one pace to loving her silently, bless her, call it by a good name of " let go " , comfort oneself to say " want her to pass happily only " go, go disturbing her no longer. Let go with this kind of means, still saying is a kind of love, look be like very great, but have flaw. In every case has experienced the person of this kind of thing, let go the person that calls love, the heart does not want to let go actually, it is very so helpless that must let go only. Although let go, but always still think her, care her, this is a kind of aeriform anguish. The person that such most doing does not wish the anguish of resort heart, outer person looks, he seemed to let go really, but only he himself knows to still be in bear in mind constantly. So, if " have a kind of love, be called let go " understanding lets go helplessly to be forced, not be not OK, after just letting go in that way, it is painful to still be met. We will see the case of a reader, it is similar mentation.

I and she is known through friend introduction, see her one side falls in love with her. I am opposite silently all the time she is good, dare not profession easily, because I feel very self-abased before her. She is the girl with a very good family circumstances, food and clothing lives use an each field requirement a cut above others, and I am an average office worker only, feel even myself to make friends with a man of higher position does not rise. But, love this kind of thing, make me deep-set among them cannot extricate oneself, I am not put issue her, always imagining can mix her love.

Sooner or later, I hearten professioned to her, she promised me, I was not asleep several days excitedly become aware. She goes up to the sky namely to me bestow my gift, although still be very self-abased before her, but our love gave me courage, I decide to struggle well, catch up with her administrative levels with the rapiddest rate. Lamentable is, we a love a few days, she put forward to part company with me. She says we are improper, also mentioned administrative levels problem of course, say we are not the people of an administrative levels, should not besides all sorts of ideas, and she says she does not think I am self-abased because of her.

I do not want to part company easily so, I waited so long, longed for so long, eventually love, I do not want to put her to go. But, she wants to part company with me of purpose, begin not to answer my information, do not contact with me, also meet with me no longer. I still am insisting to love her, but very fast she fell in love with others, the other side is with the man with her similar arrangement. After I hear this news very painful, but understand to follow her have a love affair impossibly again very much again in the heart. I read an article later, say to a kind of love is called let go, since love her to be not importuned,say, want to value her option, want to let go. This to me at that time, it is only outlet. I picked this way, I think to wanted to let go only, oneself can feel better a bit, however the fact is not such.

Although I can understand " a kind of love is called let go " what is those who say, but let me let go truly, I discover I am not put, I feel I am returned so that continue to love her to just go, probably she still can return some day beside me. But, one up-to-date, whats did not happen, between I and her, the distance is further and further.

The story of this reader, our begin says, if use groovy means to understand " a kind of love is called let go " , that even if is apparently let go, the heart still is put do not drop, because love is mixed,let go between always contradict each other. So say, if encountered the situation of this reader, how should do? Letting go actually should let go for certain, if have to gives,let go the label that adds a love, that " have a kind of love, be called let go " should understand to love oneself, is not the person that love does not love you that. If you can comprehend this, that lets go meet very simple, it is euqally painful to also won't resemble that reader.

Say so, have a kind of love, be called let go, true meaning should be " love oneself " . When the person that loves when you does not love you, you are very clear happen without love between you, what at that time then you need to do most is to let go, abandon the love to her, abandon her this individual, abandon be opposite between you the illusion of love, had turned the head will love his. You know him love only, ability realizes the person that ought not to continue to love not to love his, just can give the operation thereby, ability lets go truly, ability is opposite no longer after let go that individual bear in mind constantly, it is so painful to also be done not have.

A lot of people are understood by the convention of this word misdirect, actually you want to be able to discover carefully, love and letting go is mutual contradiction, since love, why to want to let go? Since let go, why to still call love? So, when you want to abandon a paragraph belonging to your love, should want how to love oneself more, change attention spot to him body from body of the other side, love oneself well, perhaps go loving a person that loves you, such your ability loosen easily gently let go.