Often can appear in Mom's heart recently " who is still a darling " this word, a bit small truly the word of Xing Xiaoao charming. Really, in the eye of mother of grandmother of grandfather grandma, grandfather, father, the child of own home is a big baby. What perhaps do father and mother because of old people is already right the joys and sorrows of life of life is experienced somewhat, it is so inside the limits of own in one's power, let the child as far as possible " capricious " . The film " mysterious giant star " in have an actor's lines: You can raise any requirements to me, but opposite is vivid cannot. Implication, the child is the center of parental elder, not be social center, alien won't turn round them.
However children of a few years old does not understand, when family turns round him, he can think everybody manages ought to the intention down him, satisfy his idea. When alien cannot satisfy him, he will be angry, meeting " get angry " , the meeting is irratable, disagreement group. A few days ago, but the sister's son that Mom is taking husband goes out to play together, settle on of young sister's son the yo-yo of others, start work then grab, other little girl does not play to him, he chooses " attack " (clutch) the other side. I look in the eye, the shake with fear that treat. Similar case is very much also, occupy the remote controller of others home by force for example, when dissatisfaction is sufficient, can cry to be troubled by greatly greatly, child of a few years old, ask for a favor cries greatly, people looks in the eye, resemble watching the scene of bustle general.
Actually nurturance such disposition, have a poorer acceptance, often come from at parent exorbitant doting, say with native place word, namely " of be used to " . For instance the following kinds of circumstances: 1. Young sister's son child of 5 years old, often feed him to have a meal, when he does not want to eat, all sorts of fooling, feed readily readily, see a mobile phone have a meal at the same time at the same time. 2. Do not know self-effacing. When encountering smaller than him child to have the toy that he likes, the family member is met idea tries to take the toy play. 3. Cry to compromise. Want to encounter not happy thing only, cry greatly, at this moment the family member compromises.
Actually still a lot of is similar to the circumstance of above, believe a lot of children also are in by exorbitant doting. Actually this is not love really, because become the child not be gregarious, overbearing when, play gladly without the child with him, also can cause certain psychological effect to the child. So, but Mom feels all the time, to the child, when should loving, love, education also wants when should be being taught, do not divide the age. We always think the child is small still, actually they are brought up stealthily, wait when one day we think education again, 3 view and disposition had finalized the design, very difficult shake.
