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I ever had seen a movie " wild " , the hero inside is mistreated by father in one's childhood, blossommed the disposition of obsequious, splatter, just transform somewhat till the life after beginning experienced boxing, and this moment, do not know to should say in the end of good and evil has a cable eventually, his domestic cruel father dies at cancer. The story arrived here is about to end it seems that, but actually just begin, because the influence of domestic force is,will accompany person lifetime.
In actual life, the parent most capability that pursues force is not high, encounter a problem not to understand communicate, perhaps say they change an angle look upon without ability, a lot of him things are handled bad more do not know how to teach the child to do, this kind of incompetent feeling can let them choose resort force.
In the film, male hero lifetime wants to break the violent fetters and handcuffs that father brings, even if had grown,be rank first boxer so, still cannot cast off the shade that father brings, he chose death to free oneself finally oneself life.
See here I think not only, where do those children that had confronted domestic force go? Yes, they were brought up, some did father and mother.
What kind of father and mother did they become? The answer has 2.
Psychology of one part child bears ability is powerful, they coerce in growing process they are changed, the way that cuts axe with similar knife those dark from the heart firm firm cut out goes, dripping blood goes ahead. They are clever and doughty, do not think the lifetime that be manacled by childhood shadow, so most can choose another city to establish his family afresh after manhood, know warm person, love each other be in love enter marriage, overcome fear to have his child next.
But the shadow that this does not cast off the past completely on behalf of him, just this kind of influence is other one side, it is excessive and favorite child, to this kind of parents, the shade that violent in the past education once brought has much profundity, sole rebounds have many serious, aux would rather overprotection, also do not wish the child is experienced once painful, but even so, I still feel this kind of parents is very brave.
Another part child bears capability is not strong, the domestic force that perhaps confronts is more serious, they fail to develop a confine not only, became the person as their parents instead, yes, became the person that violate, to issueing generation to continue this is planted violent, and became instinct. Normal person won't choose force after experience is bitter, but they are not, passing because of experience and live for a long time among them, ability can think this kind of force can apply.
He does not have any thinking wrong place, because be brought up as a child in him in that world, with him two people with the closest relationship tell him with behavior: Violent, be allowed. Such parental nature is exceeding how terrible, they became themselves to go most aversion, but they are victims likewise, childhood shadow development is medullary, how should you ask they are hopeful and optimistic?
The word arrives here, most propbably parents is already clear, the harm of domestic force is not finish generation person, can continue however descendants of ages ago finish, if you ever confronted domestic force, try to restrain oneself mood please! See the eyes that the child frightens, follow you in those days very similar, save you without the person in those days, but now, you can be saved help the child.
Hope everybody can get happiness.
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Pay close attention to [small wind child] , education of development of disposition of the children psychology that you think to understand, parentage, children, family, double business is developed, can find the solution here.
Besides achieve caricature article formerly, we still can be acted according to to you regularly on economic education is small stick person, the concern that allows you and child is more harmonious.
