A person whether success and his thinking means is concerned. Thinking means can be divided roughly it is two kinds, one kind is to grow model thinking, one kind is solid finalizes the design thinking.
The distinction of both depends on:
Former the ability that believes oneself can get promotion through effort; And latter thinks his intelligence and ability are ration, won't change.
Have grow model the child of thinking works to abandon not easily, also can enjoy fun from inside the process more.
So, if the parent boast child is clever, can let the child think his ability is mixed only those mensurable endowment are concerned, go against the child to grow model the education of thinking.
The article praises right way of the child 15 kinds, parent adroitness is applied, the child will surely progress ceaselessly.
Stop to say " you are really clever " , begin to say. . .
1
You very effort! -- praise hard
You Tried Really Hard On That.
When the child presents a beautiful work to you, can not want by happy turn sb's head, the hardships that writes down so that be sure he is paid for this please is mixed hard.
2
Although very difficult, but you did not abandon all the time. -- praise firm and persistent
You Never Gave Up, even When It Was Hard.
When the thing that accomplishs to have a challenge very much to him when the child, for instance cudgel one's brains remaining pieces of a go, climb high on attempt playground climb frame, countless times unsuccessful hind tries countless times repeatedly, the patience that remembers affirming him please and hold to.
3
The mood that you do a business is very good. -- praise an attitude
You Have Such A Positive Attitude.
Was full of when the task that faces on the child active up when energy, can not forget a few to capture opportunity put in a good word for sb.
4
You progressed on ____ a lot of! -- praise detail
You Have Really Improved On ______ .
Rise somewhat in some respect ability when the child when, praise detail, more specific better, for instance:
Baby, the pose on the hand when you swim now more standard, and frequency of take a breath is more even also, before comparing, progressed a lot of, dishy!
5
This method has new idea really! -- praise originality
What A Creative Solution To That Problem!
This is the place that needs an attention most, those who see the child is strange think of clever want, let a person the most easily follow " clever " link up with rises, but surprise,think of clever is wanting really " clever " ?
It should be originality is accumulated with what think, it is the child the cerebral hole that just harvests after trying possibility scheme countless times leaves greatly! So, praise " have originality " be opposite!
6
You and young associate people collaboration gets dishy! -- praise cooperative spirit
You Work Very Well With Your Classmates.
No matter a person is much abler, the business that can do also is finite, if the child and young associate cooperate together,completed some work, do well still, must capture an opportunity to be sure the child's collaboration communicates ability please!
7
You are in charge of this thing very well! -- praise leader force
I Love How You Took Ownership Of That!
Although completely a person does not do the child some things, but he is responsible government, because he has very strong responsibility heart and leadership,be being done well is, praise this on the dot, can let the child know, although he does not have close on every measure all previous to be in person, but can Made It Happen, also be a kind of very important ability.
8
You were not afraid of difficulty, too god-given! -- praise courage
You Are Not Afraid Of A Challenge! I Like That!
Praise the child's courage, be can help him go up most " self-confident index " when.
9
You helped _____ finish her job, really pretty good! -- praise enthusiastic
You Did A Great Job Of Helping ___with Her Assignment.
"Send person rose, the hand has lingering fragrance " , helping a person is a kind of goodness, what must praise the child is enthusiastic, encourage him great help others.
Also can let him know at the same time, the method that overcomes difficulty has a lot of kinds, hold to besides oneself patience, appeal to others, learn from inside the experience of others, also be very efficient way.
10
Your room oneself / the book is cleared away it is good to be arranged really. -- praise responsibility heart and consecution sex
You Have Taken Great Care Of Your Room/books.
Can have arranged oneself domain, had cleared away article, had taken care of, it is conscientious, work to be reflected systematically, this is the foundation that the child can have done other business, praise and encouraging that is must.
11
I believe you, because of ______ . -- praise credit
I Know I Can Trust You Because ______ .
Good credit can make life road of the child more smooth, want timely side so he is built.
Agree with the child for instance when what, can say " I believe you, because before a few times you talk count " , "I believe you, you can find tweak certainly " ...
12
When you enter an activity today, behave very well! -- praise participate in
You Did A Great Job Of Participating Today!
Participate in an activity, can develop field of vision, absorb more nutrient, when the child active eagerly enter an activity, be in in the activity when performance is good, the participation that must encourage him feels.
13
You value the opinion of others very much, do at this o'clock first-rately. -- praise open and modest attitude
It Is So Nice That You Value Other People ' S Opinions.
Absorb good proposal and experience from others body, him ability also can rise ceaselessly, have grow model the person of thinking is having open and modest attitude commonly.
14
Really glad that you make such choice. -- praise a choice
I Am So Proud That You Made That Choice.
Finish the job can outstandingly, because try hard,be sometimes, because changed strategy,be however sometimes, made right choice. Praise strategy, also be to earth up nurturance to grow model the key of thinking.
15
You remember _____ ! Want to get dishy! -- praise attentive
You Remembered To ____ ! Great Thinking!
Attentive not only body is overcautious now, more the comprehensive sex that body considers an issue in the child now and much angle.
Go out when playing, the child does not forget to carry an umbrella, rained to return true find sth useful later, the attentive child before going out so was examined designedly that day weather forecast, at that time, what father mother praises him with respect to this is attentive help somebody attain his aim with the consideration.
