Author: Liu Na
Origin: The flower when idle leaves
● ● ●
The China that reads an university in the United States learns bully Zhang Yi is gotten, committed suicide in March in this.
The story of this sadness, should kiss father to often be gotten from Guangdong sheet (this name Zhang Yue) begin to tell case.
When getting 1 year old, often get experience marriage unforeseen event, the wife leaves him and go.
Often get those who strove for a son to raise advantageous position, become one list to kiss father.
So old that get with the son
To foster a son better, often must resign the tall canal post of a company of Guangzhou, sold Guangzhou the Milky way the house of downtown, taking a son to go to a countryside of the reputed founder of the Ix Dynasty to live.
Often get the both hands that uses oneself, one brick built a farm made of baked clayly, the building is grey made of baked clay blue bricks is built, utensils is log long bamboo, planted a lot of vegetable fruits, raised goose of many gallinaceous duck fish, let a son walk between Yu Tian ground, live in nature.
Those who return a country is old, a bit did not loosen the education that gets and education.
He uses absorbed love, teach a son to read know how to read, accompany a son to be brought up slowly.
Must be a sensible and intelligent child, the mastered elementary school phase already adroitly voluminous knowledge when he is 3 years old.
because be gotten outstanding, so old that have love particularly again, father and son two the individual's stories, spread everywhere to Guangzhou mom circle very quickly.
In the time that returns extraordinary popularity in forum, "Get his dad " old, it is Yo of Guangzhou this locality the star of forum and God, in Guangzhou mom group in, have name quite.
A lot of mom, arrive from forum small gain, arrive again date of small letter public, it is the vermicelli made from bean starch that often gets.
This kind likes and chase after hold in both hands, on one hand, come from often get deep to the son love:
From must be born case, so old that use pen and watch for an opportunity, the record plays the every little bit that gets.
the first pair of shoes of the child, the first toy, the first book, the first piece of certificate of merit, very earnest collect comes down.
Often get the valuable data that saves to be gotten
These year, he is worn-out 5 camera, to must take many pieces of 20 picture.
He does not weigh appearance ground to cook to the son everyday, even the meal with phrasal story lifelike make it.
He waits for the letter that vegetable engraves with turnip, ginger, garlic, accumulative total has 250 thousand, in the feeling that makes a son intuitionistic in figure, obtain fresh and stereo acknowledge.
Start work capability is extremely strong old, still give a son to make manual pet 200 with one's own hands.
He still wrote a book, cry " the fairy tale story that gets his dad " , whole book 2001 words, the implied meaning must is born in 2001;
Whole book has 11 puppy to deduce, the implied meaning November; Share 7 parts to comprise, the implied meaning 7 days;
Synthesize the birthday that gets:
On November 7, 2001.
Often get two published books
On the other hand, praise to what often get, also come from at heart of a lot of mom projectile:
A lot of mom are Yo of type of bereft of one's spouse, odd dear father is so old that odd dear father get with outstanding son, let mom as if the sign that saw oneself, still have prospective hope.
Mom from the story that often be gotten and gets, of patchy respective marriage misshapen, also curing respective Yo aching.
What became famous in mom circle is old, grow plain father love in order to return to natural education and continous, also caused the attention of government-owned intermediary.
" Guangzhou daily " " Zhuhai TV station " the story that waited for a lot of media to report this pair of father and son.
These reports, also often must collect rise, in all article that collect carefully arrives and must concern.
Get intelligent, often must be opposite again the child's education takes seriously particularly, father and son two although live in the country, but must accept good education all the time.
Must acquire a middle school as a child, those who go up is private school, when junior high school annual and tuitional it is to be as high as 200 thousand yuan more.
These are tuitional, one part comes from the income that often gets a farm, one part comes from mom group of li of a lot of people contributory.
"When every arrive to must pay the tuition fee, come from mom pink, good intention the remittance of people, fly like snowflake. Often get the number that notes below each amount seriously, say some day is paid off certainly. Say some day is paid off certainly..
A media is described so.
The teenager is gotten
When junior high school, achievement is particularly outstanding get, will to Suzhou read from Guangdong.
When high school, one take an examination of excellent front courtyard blame is rich namely expensive international school, can obtain the bonus of 200 thousand every year to learn, oneself bear oneself tuition and living cost.
Not clear, with father space after two ground, adolescence is outer of attend school get, what to encounter after all in the heart.
In the literary works that often gets public bugle call, in the story that still has medium, sensible and outstanding get, it is gloden child all the time it seems that:
Save worry, outstanding, hard, aspirant, self-discipline.
When high school graduates, must take an examination of went up to be known as " American south Ha Fo " the university in dust silent studies philosophy.
The TOEFL of 120 minutes of full marks, he took an examination of 118 minutes, international controversy surpasses before be seleted 8.
Simply too outstanding.
Often getting a heart is glorious of course proud.
Excited and in satisfying, so old that transformed a house technically in the farm, installed " get nature science ark " ,
So old that give the nature science ark that must build one role
He these of year of reservation with the thing that must concern, meticulously rehabilitate makes item on display, put nature science cabinet inside.
Be give the adult gift that gets.
Grown be gotten and often get
When 2019, get 18 years old, lone 17 years old, received life the 2nd spring:
After he was encountered wife, wife belt is worn after the child that one each shuts disease.
Kind-hearted be like,often must inspect this child oneself piece, and it is special in the farm open up at the same place place, use at the training of system of athletic sense organ, special help resembles young son same shut disease children oneself.
Media spreads out again new round report eagerly.
Often must mix because of education again love, became public person.
Often get the training field that builds from the child that shut disease
But pay close attention to without the person, this old act, the eldest son that whether lets depend on each other for a long time is gotten, in the family in recombining, feel unwell, or by desolate.
Paying close attention to the everybody of this pair of father and son, think to must be met have bright and satisfactory life, when often getting the old age that will enter smooth and steady happiness, tragedy happening.
On March 15, the netizen explodes makings, get in what the United States reads an university, commit suicide at the late night, year only 20 years old.
Later, old friend is encircled, also confirmed this information:
"Son, wish you are in heaven is lasting...
Father loves you forever, be in together with you forever. Be in together with you forever..
old friend is encircled
Leave a message in complement in, often get such writing:
"The son already must die on March 5, 2021 yesterday.
Had requested funeral affairs of manage of the place to go before he gives birth to a mother, I chose to let him stay in the United States to bury. He can be in my heart forever so sunshine is handsome.
Be gotten.
So so outstanding, brilliant, so of bright must go.
That unique very old father is old, also do not have an eldest son again.
Get
In " send the fellow students that endure Dave of the university in silent " in the letter (the English name that gets is Dave) , often get such writing:
"As a child, I respect him, yuan Sheng respects him too.
As a result changes a part often with him, he becomes father, I become a son, decide by him, doing everything in the home.
When remembering him be in 12 years old, wrote a letter to me, say in the letter, ' father, you should learn pair of my Say No ' .
I answer him, ' son, estimate father this all one's life, it is to did not have method to learn this ' .
So, all decisions in his lifetime, I am termless esteem, self-identity, accept.
Include this, this his decision finally. This his decision finally..
So old that use such means, console oneself accept the fact that must have left.
Who to have again can his Bei sorrowful mixes appreciate grief.
One raises the child alone big odd close daddy.
The celebrity father of son of a termless love, esteem son.
Because of Yo and the educational rich that famed mom encircles advocate.
such, lost the son that he loves most forever.
This thing ferments on Internet hind, somebody feels acid, somebody pledges doubt often is gotten, more people feel regretful.
Truth fact says, as the mother that there is child in a home, I feel old particularly not easy, particularly great.
Everything what he does to getting place, from trifling matters of everyday life, to foster lead, my him ask oneself is not done at all so meticulous, so comprehensive, so perfect.
His termless to the child reliance and admit, change a part show sympathy and respect, the sincerity that is without reservation and pay, I believe many parents also too far behind to catch up with.
But, seek advice from division as a psychology, I still have a few doubt, want to be discussed with more parents.
① that outstanding child, not be the look that we see.
When seeing the information that must die, I am subliminal the person that think of, it is Wu Xieyu actually.
They are two completely different people of course.
But they ever had a collective ticket:
Can is like the outstanding child of star.
Letting what the person heaves a sigh is, one chose matricidal crime, one chose ego put to an end.
Sudden when them not as good as defense sector becomes the tragic person in communal incident, we must straight face a such reality:
The beautiful and outstanding self-discipline, aspirant child in alien eye, with true himself him between, having huge drop.
Get
Do not be clear about up to now like us, like what happening after all between Wu Xieyu and mother.
We also do not have law conjecture, report medium fact besides media, getting real heart is what appearance.
So that he outstanding, decline finally in abyss, make the appearance that we do not wish to see.
② media is a Shuang Renjian, the reverse side of the ray is dim.
I ever had worked 16 years in media.
I am a Shuang Renjian to media this word, having too deep too complex feeling.
To still minor child, I have a proposal:
Parenting, want to dare to reject the excessive conduct propaganda of media and interference.
On one hand, many media are used to alternative report, easy of a come to an agreement or understanding, do not say bad, one-sided apotheosis a person;
On the other hand, the child did not finalize the design, a lot of things are premature to say, give a person very easily with the handle, also bring pressure to the child.
Writing Ma Jinyu incident " truth of case of cruel incident of female reporter home: Love is in left, the interest is in right " in, I ever also had elaborated this viewpoint:
No matter allow when to be awaited, why to plant without giving thought to place, avoid to use medium as far as possible, consume family.
I say this word, censure by no means old, want to elaborate a kind of experience with more parents however:
Human weakness is vanity is mixed greedy.
Face halo and applause, a lot of people are lost easily in perfect false appearance, forget do true oneself.
③ does not prove " I love you " , love to be in real concern however.
This is the viewpoint of my individual, not certain and correct:
I viewed a lot of data that be gotten and often get, have a kind of delicate feeling, it is old too good, too perfect, too close, too exquisite.
Link his name on each gregarious platform, it is " get his dad " , is not him himself.
He seems to be enmeshed in all the time " I am a good father " in the concept, special care about " good father " this identity He Rongyao.
Media coverage, on March 5 before dawn, get suicide is in the beauty.
On March 6, still often must be in a Yu Ju do " China gets dad Yo communication commonweal lecture " .
The theme is " the method that establishs good parentage and meaning " .
On March 13, so old that still sent ring of a friend, in the Yo of relatives and friends that with oneself the name names group in, provide advise and help to other parent.
This firm father, with such means cure injury, let a person look the five flavors in the heart is miscellaneously however old:
He lost the son that loves most, still want to become a best father.
We should be striven for of course become a good father and mother, but we cannot be in alive " become a good father and mother " in the target, and oversight a such truths:
Everything what what we do, it is good for him proof to be not, had experienced to let the child however.
If we do everything, just be prove to others oneself are very good, and child feeling is bad, that can explain we live in oneself only hold read aloud in, and the feeling that did not see the child and heart.
Parenting, do not be enmeshed in " see me love you more " in the proof, live in real concern however.
④ is not alarmed, majority child is met health grows.
After the tragedy that be gotten and often gets happens, somebody ascribes the problem to the love that single close father and mother chokes.
I do not agree.
Front courtyard of odd relatives by marriage is not original sin, single close father and mother also is not a murderer.
No matter be parents' perfect family, still be front courtyard of odd relatives by marriage, the child grows in was full of sealed risk.
What is more,the rather that, the nature of the child and child has very big difference, some children are inherent and sensitive flimsy, some children spill a skin inherently to be able to bear or endure dozen;
Some parents quarrel every day, the child still learns very good, still be brought up; Some parents full day is cautious, the child or pessimism are acedia, decline depressed.
A grown child, suffer from on depressed disease, also not be the fault of former unripe family certainly.
He encountered the likelihood a lot of things, parents was not experienced and accompany.
Because, the reason of alluring and depressed disease, have a lot of.
Parenting, we need not be in tragedy excessive think over.
Wish only more person sees such edificatory from which:
Need not become father and mother of 100 minutes, the parents when 80 minutes is very good.
In good-tempered and admit in, see a person, one has the advantage, person that has flimsy and glazed beard faultily.
Know that individual, it is my child not only, still be him himself.
More know:
If what I wish,love is not, be like your place however is.
Such very good.
I am graceful elder sister.
Like today's character, wish you are nodded [assist] , [share] go out, discuss together with more person.
-- end, it is another kind begins --
The flower when idle leaves (ID: Xsha369) : Author Liu is graceful, 80 hind old girl, psychology seeks advice from division, affection column author, achieve formerly explode civil keep a hand, can write love story kissing affection, can write close child educational heat, be called by the reader " can literary rational also female middleaged, dare tender feelings is dead also of knock foolish old girl " . Article picture comes from " get his dad Yo story " , explain hereby.
