It is good that this problem does not have what ask ah, 16 years old, apparent improper, do not say 16 years old, it is 6 years old, the son is very improper also sleep with mom. Generally speaking, the child divides a bed with parents after 3 years old, our home child does not have the success that divide a bed 3 years old, but arrive 4 years old half must divide a bed, do not exceed 5 years old at most.
16 years old of sons still sleep with mom, speak out a bit absurd, be more improper so, appear commonly such circumstance, it is the son has Oedipus complex, do not be willing to part, can lack safe sense, lack love to wait as a child, feel apart to sleep to feel without safety, the mother also is hated to part with sleep apart with the son, hold the child in both hands in control as a child, after afraid child sleeps apart, lack safe sense, worry about child be in a state of anxiety, I think those who say is, if still have this kind of psychology and action, be education then be short of break, educational error, exorbitant is doting the child, long-term before, not was to kill a son, also killed oneself. The reason depends on:
1, beyond the mark and doting, let the child more the heart is flimsy. 16 years old still sleep with mom, where did father go to? From different? Does sheet kiss mom? If so, so, the child may lack father love as a child, lack a complete home, lack safe sense as a child, so, sleep with mom all the time, time grew, more and more cent did not leave, do not part in one's childhood, was brought up, formed be used to and depend on psychology, more parted hard.
Let the child do not have safe feeling more and more so, it is 16 years old not only, it is manhood hind even, or 26 years old, he still wants to sleep together with mom, expect this kind of safe feeling goes down continuously all the time namely, can make child psychology flimsier and flimsier only so, the independence that do not have a law goes facing a society, of the heart flimsy, when can letting him face a setback, cannot recover after a setback, meeting ego is dejected, such, was to destroy the child not only, also was to destroy oneself, to moment, regret to have not enough time.
2, during the child is in development, hard to avoid will be cranky. The son is 16 years old, be in green development period, sleep with the mother, the contact that can have the body perhaps is touched touch, can make the child cranky, such, not only awkward, can appear even a few ideas that take risk, even if is dress clothes, when sleeping inevitably also, again and again, can have body contact, so, very improper, the body and mind that can affect the child is healthy. Must as soon as possible decisive departure, otherwise, give an issue very easily.
3, change clothes no-go. Be in a room, sleep together, also can be faced with change clothes the no-go problem of wind respect, even if goes the toilet changes night clothes, midway of hard to avoid can have change, rise to also want to change, these are improper.
4, of right mother excessive depend on, can affect his future choose to choose occasionally. Because follow a mother to live together as a child, lack father love, can produce Oedipus complex, in look for a partner in marriage when, can serve as referenced object with the mother, can not look to all schoolgirls even, do not enter law small hole, bring about choose to watch occurrence issue occasionally, serious, blemish of nature of meeting occurrence character.
5, can become more " Nancy " , disposition can become sissy. Such child, great majority lives with the mother all the year round, disposition slants weak, more Nancy, talk even, the metropolis is a bit sissy. Say so, general boy, must father takes a place more, develop his firm disposition, foster him more Yang Gang's gas, resemble a Man, not only father was not taken, live with the mother all the year round, sleep with the mother all the year round even, that easier practice the effeminate disposition with respect to him, lack man taste. 6, the child can form independent character hard. Found at 2018.9.5 editors
