Modern society is a model " extroversion is changed " society, everybody prefers the person of disposition extroversion it seems that. They can be humorous and Yan Shandao, humor, in all sorts of circumstances can do a job with skill and ease, feel just like a fish in water also is in social activity. Extroversion person it seems that it is easy that the day is born with conspicuous, also more opportunities get the show appreciation for sb of the destiny.
And what introversion often is considered as disposition is short board, it is especially in the social competition with intense nowadays, won't talk to be able to not move a step almost. People notices the person that spotlight issues the extroversion that shine brilliantly more easily, and the person that ignored the introversion of the unknown to public in the corner.
We often say: "Green hill changes easily, nature moves hard " , disposition is very difficult change. Some people just look compare extroversion just, for instance glib, in socialization the circumstance also can be answered well. But of their in one's heart or introversion, quiet, inside collect, do not like intercourse, such person is absent a few. Saying with its is indrawn person " camouflage " the person that became extroversion, be inferior to saying is indrawn person mastered communication method, into the person that is good at socialization for.
In the life, indrawn person always be the ground that be sticks a lot of label, for instance Mu Ne, chill, disagreement group etc. Actually not all indrawn person is such, our hep a lot of celebrity are indrawn person, connecting a few famous socialization to amount to person itself also is indrawn person. Indrawn person must not hide in the shadow certainly, they also can stand below spotlight, speak with fervor and assurance, blossom oneself ray.
The person that there is 1/3 above on this world is indrawn person, include Einstein, Buffett, Bill Gates to wait a moment among them, connecting Luo Sifu and Gandhi even is introvert person. Of the person that belong to introversion alone just about inside collect, careful, persistence and dedicated, help the person that they became the outstanding of respective domain.
Introversion is a kind of preference only, have nothing to do with success or failure, the person of this kind of disposition is more composed instead, ponder over a problem more comprehensive, also be willing to spend more time to go understanding, observation and listen attentively to others. Introvert can not prevent us to become outstanding leader, also cannot we move toward block up successful.
Whether do you also envy those to answer the person of freely in social situation? Often perhaps feel because of one's words of him not to be pooh-poohed self-abased? Wanted to master certain communication skill only actually, need not pretend, also need not alter nature, the person that you also can give birth to conversable extroversion like those day talks cheerfully and humourously euqally, do weller than them even.
Not in precious Ni " indrawn person communication Bible " in, gave out to communicate " 4P " law: Prepare (Preparation) , reveal (Presence) , drive (Push) and exercise (Practice) , can help us advantage of translate into of disposition inferior position, the social difficult problem that the person that solve introversion faces.
(1) preparation
Sufficient preparation can help us alleviate pressure, raise hope. Making a speech for instance or to make a speech when, if you are right oneself content is very skilled, meet when be operated actually confidence hundredfold, have a well-thought-out plan, although encounter a bit sudden situation, there is preliminary plan in the heart, also can solve smoothly, unapt from random condition.
(2) reveal
Indrawn person the attention that should gain others and good impression, reveal oneself bravely with respect to need. Indrawn person the thinking that the advantage depends on careful and the attention to instantly. Above the person that falls attention dot to instantly to need to communicate and thing, investment goes in, think how to reach consensus, and should prepare for unexpected circumstance conciously.
Of intercourse depend on knowing new friend only, build new concern, its purpose is understanding what is this individual on you cares after all most, and you can provide the help that why plants again. Share your point of view sincerely with others, ability makes others impressive to you. Can from tripartite face proceed with: Self introduction, what do telling others you do; Listen attentively to the other side dedicatedly; Remember name of the other side, also let the other side remember your name.
(3) drive
Indrawn person need drives him to walk out of comfortable area, "The thing that goes doing oneself to fear " . Establish a small challenge and goal to oneself. For instance: You are not good at making a speech, with respect to the opportunity that must set a communal speech to oneself; You are not good at be being communicated with the client, you must set the conversation with the client.
(4) exercise
Before 3 measure are not accomplished in one move, need practices ceaselessly, reveal active preparation, ego namely and walk out of comfortable area the process of progressively be accustomed to sth. Continual exercise, the one part that oneself ability spends inside these effectual behavior.
Do bad a reason that the thing perhaps works, or reason has ten million to plant, but " introvert " not be a among them absolutely. No matter any jobs, the person of introversion and extroversion can be done very well. We need not be pretended painstakingly, need to master a bit skill only, learn from others's strong points to offset one's weakness, produce oneself disposition advantage adequately.
