Author: Wang Zhe links: Https://www.zhihu.com/question/19702822/answer/115567212 origin: Know copyright puts in an author 's charge all. Commerce is reprinted contact an author to obtain authorization please, blame commerce is reprinted ask give chapter and verse for. Have of course, friendship is a kind of between person and person normal feeling connection, since a word says: The place of somebody has all corners of the country, so same, the place of somebody, also have friendship of course. Won't alternate because of the place nonexistent. Nevertheless a general issue depends on. Some people did not realize, duty field is human and other all emotional concerns are same, it is to have sense of property, have a principle, need to manage, sweethearts of brother of for example father and son even husband and wife's relation, also can not do to be able to be handled well in disorder anyhow, it is to need to hold with reasonable proper limits for speech or action. The friendship inside duty field should follow 3 principles
One, the everybody inside field of state-private and trenchant duty, it is the interest firm public general affairs because of the company above all and go to come along. So, in the reasonable processing on official business, it is all foundations that everybody cooperates. Duty field person and person are not not OK talk about feeling, but the attitude that everybody wants to have a kind of major above all, good official processing, put at the same time, just can talk about private concern next. But, some people like a state-private confuse sth with sth else however, want to use private concern to affect official business, improper advantage is gained on public affairs, this go up from fundamental direction wrong.
2, good intentions, mo Jiang begs so called good intentions, that is to say is in do not violate a principle, do not harm other interest, below the premise that also does not harm him interest, can help others go convenient. Can build handle to take grip, say a good word, do a good work, put good intention, do not give others incommode. Solid is not OK harm others to benefit oneself, also do not want caustic however personal benefit person, going be being done painstakingly is to do thing of what be apt to, do " Shi En at the person " , be willing to help with respect to the side, do not be willing to calculate, helping is for oneself only this wish, do not become Zhang is calculating to put how many gift in the heart. Putting " Shi En " heart, meet one day sooner or later psychological unbalance, be afraid of go astray only to moment, act in a way that defeats one's purpose.
3, have accept or reject you are to be being held in the arms really state-private and trenchant, the mood of good intentions comes, but also do not eliminate some people to want namely really for state-private confuse sth with sth else, lilliputian is compared and not, defend those who belong to one's own faction and attack those who don't and come. Recognize this appearance, gave up before it is too late the thought that makes friend with them, should not make friend with everybody. More what is more,the rather that, be like mix into foreign matter, which still have true friendship but character?
Anyhow, on-the-job field it may not be a bad idea, be in other place, friendship wants 3 words to be able to be generalized only,
Say: "Think of cherubic "
Feel to arrest some people I am theoretic general principle, sit and talk. I put on a few figures.
After I leave off my post, often still play together with the work in the same placing previously, they have some of problem, also can discuss the result with me, I am avowed and on-the-job on field, still have a lot of friends.
