The child is in traitorous period, do father and mother how should unscramble?
Acknowledgment head educational alliance invites.
The child is in traitorous period, I believe this is a lot of parents most parental thing, most parent is at a loss what to do, because be at a loss, do the child is more and more traitorously so, the parent does not have method more and more. Actually, in the process that grows in the child, appear traitorous period it is to be in the business that does not pass normally, this is life experience surely by level, it is some child expression are highlighted only, some child expression did not stop apparently. Grow as the child slow Qian is entered traitorous period, main watch is not willing to be communicated with parents now, do not be willing to comply with extremely strong, longing waits homiletic, proper pride of parents a moment independently. What most parent fails to treat the child correctly is traitorous period, just bring about contradictory become acute so. Here a few suggest smally to have traitorous period the child's parent, hope to be helped somewhat.
It is some more show sympathy and respect, develop the bearing that the child paddles his own canoe and disposition. A lot of parents always think of the child traitorous it is not obedient cause, actually otherwise, the child is in grow traitorous period, they long to paddle one's own canoe very much, a lot of parents often do not know decent forgive and esteem child, like All matters to the child's life, insist on getting to the bottom of the matter, do not allow the child to have his individual privacy, even some of parent suffers the effect that Mom of tiger pa tiger teachs, adopt " in order to hit era teaching " means, these educational way often are just the opposite to what one wished. Our parent should learn to make allowances for the child, esteem child, develop the disposition that paddle one's own canoe and habit.
2 it is teaching by one's own example excels teach by word of mouth, with action guiding the child forms correct philosophy and viewpoint of value. Traitorous period the child, as a result of not obedient, produce conflict easily with parents. A lot of parents are planted to this circumstance, often hope to pass homiletic, try to let the child amend his wrong way. However, the parent often is not clear that the child is fed up with homiletic, think subconsciously of parents preach even if criticizing oneself, this to traitorous period the excitation that self-important child is contradiction undoubtedly agent. Replace with the action as far as possible in this period so homiletic, with action guiding the child fosters correct philosophy and viewpoint of value.
3 it is to crouch conversation, become with the child most the friend that be close friends and know already. As the parent, want to make friend with him child, self-study station is communicated with the child in friend angle and communicate, the thought change that masters the child and mood change. When a lot of parents are talking with the child, often be the attitude that stand high above the masses, homiletic mood, let the child very easily defy so with parent communication, the parent often cannot know the child truly. ? ? Right way should be the parent the identity with the friend, with the attitude of bilateral equality, the angle that stands in the friend is communicated with the child and communicate, the control with nicer gift thought change of the child and mood change.
