Love is sweet, but also be a kind of burden, it is sweet burden. Some people of haing haing ～ can amid is unhurried, and some people however angst can'ts bear.
Adult attaching type decided affinity mode
Evasive model angst arises to feel in the metropolis after entering affinity with the person of angst attaching mode. Because, on one hand they need affinity, not repellent affinity, on the other hand, they have can undertake to a kind of such relation evasive, this kind of contradictory conflict finished their angst experience. And, they cannot cast off this kind of conflict, because this is them,answer the behavior mode of affinity.
If the spouse leaves him / her period of time, he / she is met because of the departure of the other side " angry " , the other side after coming back, he / she won't come back because of the other side and feel happy continue however not happy because of the departure of the other side, and do not invite opposite party leave. This is him / a kind of kind that she expresses pair of the other side to care about.
Be like, a child is not happy because of maternal departure, the mother returns him afresh beside he also cannot happy, he leaves before blame mother however.
Be at a loss brought worry is experienced
To lacking amative experience, or very for the person that takes a fancy to this paragraph of relation, the period that anxiety sense did not stabilize in the relation is regular meeting generation. Because do not know,undertake getting along with the other side at that time with why be being planted. I remember my university abandoning have just talked about love, do not know two people are together moment, how does monetary expenditure allocate more reasonable, very nervous, have a meal to grabbing settle accounts every time, the other side paid meal cost to must buy movie ticket... but, as the stability of mode of two people association, sense of this kind of anxiety can decrease and disappear.
Think expression is perfect already think performance is true again the conflict between me
Before favorite person, everybody wants to show his best one side, but meanwhile, everybody can have on the body many " illness " . Everybody has impressional government to oneself, the defect that conceals oneself perhaps says inferior position. Enter the person of affinity, want to continue to maintain oneself on one hand this kind of good figure, do not expose weakness, feel to be before the person of love again, should do true oneself, the conflict between these two kinds of thoughts, left a person to bring worry.
