As a teaching staff, can look reach you love the child very much really, you hope to impart those who give the child is knowledge not just, you still pay close attention to the child's health to grow. To the teaching staff hail that has feelings with you! Nod assist for you!
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Return this responsibility for, I feel is three-layer relation: One is the relation of you and parent; 2 are the relation of you and child; Three-layer is the relation of the child and parent. The three-layer relation of this tripartite forms a small system between you. If parentage was not solved good, affect the principal part that gets education -- the child, the teacher and student that can affect you then works.
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So, we now from human communication angle will analyse this problem. Be in human in communicating, unpleasant communication is put in 3 kinds of parts, one kind is the person that save, one kind is a victim, one kind is persecutor. When you see the child's case, you want to help the child very much, the relation of the person that save and victim is between you and child. But become you to become aware,must not go up from personal side the child when, you meet what run to the victim from the part of the person that save feel, child nature jumps to the part of persecutor. Pass such citing, you are OK and outspread to you and parent, and the communication analysis between the child and parent. How does such unpleasantness arise.
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See from inside your description, the child's parent feels past is very absolute parent, namely the person with control very strong desire. So why does she need to there is so strong control desire? Perhaps his heart was concealed of a lot of flimsy, what not be willing to let others see him is bad, he needs to arm oneself, let oneself feel before others oneself are very good. because be opposite in his heart oneself " I am bad " psychological position, let him need to be behaved before the person " I am very good " false appearance. But your debunk that cloth that he masks, although you are very euphemistic, but he can be very sensitive receive the information that is oppugned, this to him cannot accept, so he needs to tell you, what you say is wrong. Will safeguard oneself with this " good " false appearance.
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The child can appear in the in interacting nature of such families the condition that you describe. To you, you did not do the domestic environment of change child, because parent oneself has his to need the task that grow to awaiting him to explore, our place cannot accomplish this.
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So to you and child:
One, , you need to go with normal perspective look upon child, namely the description that those your label change can be cast, if you use the perspective that carrying tag to see the child, your between interacting is not quits. You can be used " I you are good, bad " of psychological position set beforehand interact with the child, when we try to comfort a person, be a kind of commanding manner actually. This meeting lets the child more close oneself.
2, , his fear and loneliness come from the company at doing not have the heart, although parental complete in both respects, they do not have the likelihood the cares child heart need of materiality, it is the satisfaction of pair of child materially merely. So, walk into the child's heart, dissolve his loneliness. Go understanding him, in all affection him, accompany him. Of course, this is how be done when you get along.
3, see from child body to force. Make him clear, actually he is to be able to think he is done a few
4, let the child like his, let him child discover the virtue of own body. Such going to that transform the child slowly " I am bad " the position in the heart, become " I am good " .
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Life is seen ability has the possibility of the change only. Accordingly, you are OK static the child sees in light of next hearts, your company is very main to him.
