Huang Lei writes his wife Sun Li " resemble my madam such woman "
Resemble my madam such woman, I love.
Again downward all words that I say, it is the name because of love, be born for love.
My madam and my photograph be sensible are loved up to now full 20 years, these 20 years, we had done not have true contradiction and din almost, pass so that be insipid common, billows not Jing.
We had two daughters, big daughter 9 years old half, young daughter 20 months, their sister grows not quite picture, resemble mother greatly, small comparison resembles me, but they two also grow so that part resembles, because I am mixed,their mom also grows to resemble more more.
20 years, we are grown and mature many, imperceptible, the figure sent blessing, the top of head also caught some of frost white, once 18 years old of girls became young married woman of 38 years old, youth of 24 years old also was entered of 44 not of be puzzled year.
We are looking at the eyes of the other side, some less impulse and hesitant, some more trust and certainly. The most adherence ego between each other also falls in the soak of time, soft rise.
I am busier and busier, she is absorption guardianship child and home. We love to have chili, taste agrees completely. I prepare food, she nods assist, cooperate tacit understanding. My friend also is her friend certainly, if she does not like, I also do not like.
In daily life, she won't disturb my job almost, I also like a requirement not quite she, we from young when case, with respect to nurturance the habit that gives the other side independent space.
The living theatre that we performed 8 years together, stagewise the sweethearts that we are space four years, the empty after the show of respond to a curtain call of every time, we are red orbit 10 point to buckle closely.
We together itinerary a lot of places, european America, hemisphere of north and south, arrive from two people 3 people, arrive from 3 people 4 people, we walk all the way, enjoying each other company on journey to take care of, and the joyance that the beauty of an alien land brings and impulse.
We more time are, from at the beginning a hut, a to today big curtilage. Our keep a lot of old thing are old thing, each appearance is carrying us to arrive to be recollected greatly as a child.
We changed a lot of habits for the other side, also built a lot of habits, among them the oldest habit is, we had been used to the other side.
I was not written all the time " my madam such woman " , however babble ground is written " we " , I become us, because I encountered my madam,be such woman.
Honest ground is told, she is the girl of a common, did not stand to go alone especially, also do not have sedulous make public. She is very beautiful, but without dazzing charm, also do not have cannot honest other people.
On housework, she won't cook, not good at also and manual, although wash a bowl top-ranking. On the job, she is mixed for the child family, abandoned acting almost art career, but she abandons before slack all the time also do not try hard, although her talent is extremely high.
Teach child respect, she gets Zun Lin is right abandon, the influence of streets and lanes, methodological diversity, but continuously before long, still can be effect remarkable.
She never sober, but seldom also be angry; She thinks over again and again easily, but never dispute; Her word is very few, now and then the speech is not basic also on the dot, but each word that she says is true word; She is kind-hearted and pure, be in girl condition all the time, occasionally I can grow more maturely than her to help somebody attain his aim inside near future of afraid big daughter.
She loves to play, also love to enjoy very much, but she does not smoke not to drink not to like lively old scene, see husband daughter is mixed 35 good friends, she with respect to be perfectly satisfied. I encountered such woman, loved 20 years.
My madam such woman, actually not infrequent, should belong to gain ground model. But in my heart, it is however this one, do not retreat do not change.
Patient ground reads complete article, it is tepid in the heart. This times, good love is not much, it is what is more,the rather that more explode from time to time in bizarre and motley an off the rails entertainment group.
These opinion on public affairs, a novel that let me remember Yi Shu not only -- " my before half a lifetime " .
The heroine in the story child after the university graduates, gentleman married the sweetheart of student period, had photograph husband too those who be free to drink afternoon tea with rich lady is godchild, leisurely and comfortable
The life. Such life, the woman that wrestle of very much on-the-job field kills envies can say most.
But good view is seldom, because she after marriage is in the home by " feed " too too smooth and steady, she connects Laogong off the rails be without be aware of. Face the divorce that husband puts forward suddenly, her world topples with a loud crash; Face the brutal and real world that be like suddenly and comes, she does not know a fault.
Cry, be troubled by, how can you do? The day still has wanted to go down. Not bad child a of gentleman on-the-job all the time field is hit spell old good friend Tang Jing to gave her return society to provide many helps. In go throughall the vicissitudes of life, after all sorts of grievance that suffer the life, that is being carried all the time " old grandaunt " the professional female Tang Jing of honor encountered life to love truly eventually, and child gentleman, also greeted the 2nd her marriage after economy is independent eventually, this spouse is a heart " completely smooth face " good man.
Wait for sit when seeing the cloud rise, prattle of the cater-cousin in two boudoir rises, tang Jing said a such words, let me up to now bear in mind constantly:
"Average woman feels our luck is admirable, I feel their condition is rare however poor. I feel their condition is rare however poor..
Be, we always are used to a defeat, life arrive as meaning end " luck " , " the life manages " the concept of such a philosophical sect in the Wei and Jin dynasties goes up, but this world cause and effect is actually very distinct.
Now, let the element that our bypass life manages, see the reason of happiness of Sun Li marriage, what be after all?
1, occasionally, the option is more important than effort
Do not know which great person once had said: "Occasionally, the option is more important than effort. The option is more important than effort..
Pains learns the way that spouse concern runs, total heart is paid in a paragraph of feeling with all one's strength, this is right of course. But why the off the rails incident inside so much marriage still happens again and again, why to still have so much sincerity time and again by disappoint?
But Sun Li -- Huang Lei describes her is " won't cook, not good at also and manual, do not be fond of lively circumstance " , very indifferently a woman, seem how to to try hard obviously, what got a lot of women are longed for day and night however is happy.
In the final analysis, this is the person's problem actually.
As a result of the former unripe family of everybody, inherent nature, growing environment is different, so the disposition of everybody also is daedal. Although Sun Yan appearance once had sung: "Who can differ how much very much than who " , but my individual still feels, what the pattern between person and person, wisdom and courage and insight imagine than you sometimes is even big, also won't have otherwise " how does brambling realize lofty ambition " such deep feeling.
Accordingly, "Choose a partner " it is a knowledge.
But with other knowledge, this knowledge needs authority likewise ceaselessly trial and error, fall, climb, derive experience, relapse circularly, till find final result.
This process is very painful of course, want to shed a lot of a lot of tear, should bear a lot of times a lot of heartbreak, some person psychokinesis are weak, maintain no less than going to in halfway, was in with respect to waste all one's life on a wrong person, be in alive from now on piteous in, complain tearfully is worn him life is bad. Still some people repeatedly battle is defeated repeatedly, more Zhan Yuyong, covering to return the cut that bleeding start off.
When some day, the experience of these pain can blossom the armor on your body, the bright light of your canthus, let you become clever from now on, closer from final happiness one pace.
2, outstanding and by love, without inevitable impact.
In last few years, on the network very popular such Duan Zi:
-- why cannot be I found male / girlfriend?
-- because you are ugly.
-- why to fasten person Valentine's Day / christmas / can the seventh evening of the seventh moon receive a gift but am I done not have however?
-- because you are ugly.
See at the beginning such Duan Zi, laugh laugh to also go. But discover later, a lot of people suffer the effect of such idea, begin to put in oneself failure 's charge slowly for " ugly " and " poor " , and after having these two excuse, all failure appear more one is assured and bold with justice -- after all these two elements were decided by a priori very big one part.
Without can deny, it is better to become oneself, should be our lifetime pursuit. But outstanding be the requirement that finds true love really? the eye that we want to have tall round circle, the chin of Angelababy, lin Zhiling's figure, be just worth to be loved?
And the Sun Li of yellow Lei the wording and purpose of what one writes is such: "She is very beautiful, but without dazzing charm, also do not have cannot honest other people " , "On the job, she is mixed for the child family, abandoned acting almost art career, but she abandons before slack all the time also do not try hard " , "Her word is very few, now and then the speech is not basic also on the dot " . Very objective evaluation, love, but not blind, at the same time between the lines is full of full love -- love her this individual itself.
Our everybody is faulty: The face is a bit bigger, the eye is a bit smaller, the leg is a bit thicker, a bit shorter, a bit more selfish, a bit chiller, these, it is indisposition of laic meeting some actually. But too much person magnifies these indisposition indefinitely, think this is to let them cannot happy prime cause, but actually, real reason is -- the qualification that you think you were not loved, you do not admit yourself.
When reading an university, I have a relation to abandon friend very well, no matter be,jackaroo, she is assiduous, conversation is very tender, a delicate Hei Changfa is hanged in humeral head, should be the sort of wet Shan woman student that a lot of men consider to marry a family belongs wife. So all the time also many schoolboys had been shown to her, but she refused.
Ask about a reason, she says: "I feel I am not quite outstanding still, etc I am enough and outstanding, go talking about love again. " after I listen at that time face of interrogation of one face black, you still do not calculate outstanding, that I? ? ? Result university 4 years, graduate two years to now, she is lone from beginning to end one person, till today, I or lane are not clear, in her mouth " outstanding " , specific what is what point to after all.
So outstanding and be loved to do not have immediate impact, only when you true get readying loves, admitted this from the bottom of the heart when you faulty oneself, when be certain oneself have love and the right that are loved, lu Caizhen is being opened. Even if you are dragging 130 jins body, you still also can go bubble Gao Fushuai ah!
Emerson once had said: "Dilettante talent can believe luck and circumstances, overmatch believes cause and effect only " .
We are overmatch, believe cause and effect not to believe a life only.
