Should know how to guide the child to overshoot traitorous period, because what is traitorous,be informed the child above all.
My home child this year 13 years old, the girl, development is early, traitorous early. I often ask her, when to feel be agitated, disposition is not controlled. She says, it is to be broken out occasionally, on one second is not bad good, below one second gives birth to other feeling suddenly; Feel occasionally and Your Excellency one case very not be agitated, free, have pressure; Feel very alone occasionally, want to who look for to say to talk, cannot find a person very very irritated, sad; Occasionally writing job is written the person is emptily, do not know dry what be to do so much work, very irritated, want to breathe freely fully; Feel oneself are not quite outstanding in the class occasionally, the appearance that cannot bear the sight of oneself very much...
So, alleged and traitorous just the child is among the process that understands oneself and world, the expression of a kind of viewpoint and mood. Alleged and traitorous reason, also be the mood that the child has not learned good him control only.
In my child's traitorous two years this, I from original hot to now calm, adjusting oneself state of mind, mood, idea all the time. At the outset, the child has a sentiment, I also have a sentiment, the result was worn, often quarrel. I learn actively later, look " teenage psychology " , look " go the mood turns management " , look " how word respecting child go in the heart " etc. Below the expert's proposal, change oneself position hard, had dominated oneself sentiment first, floriferous dot time goes understanding the reason of child mood backside, resolve the issue of the concerned child that come up against calmingly. Can solve a problem easily already so, can establish good example to the child again.
For instance, the child asks I want flat this morning, I ask her calmingly reason, she says to want to hear music, she says I can dominate time. I say, then you are taken. a moment ago, she tells me to say, mom, do you know why I want flat? Not was the same as in the home on the weekend because of me age person, I feel alone, think group in with classmate Lao meeting crack with teeth in mouth. Good, this word says the thief in my heart is afflictively.
With quiet, wide mixed state of mind going facing the child is more important than any skill.
