Coach the child works, to a lot of parents it is really a day in the most provoking when, explain a lot of times to the child, still cannot understand intellectual point, look very simple title, the child won't be done namely, do not know draw inferences about other cases from one instance, not move head thinks, waiting for you to give explain the result, all sorts of problems of such, make a lot of parents really spirit breaks down.
My home has experienced such experience
Our home is from the child 4 grade begin to start mom to coach of the job of exercise and evening study. Everyday after dinner, the table of the sitting room became mother and daughter of two study advocate battlefield, deepen as what learn difficulty, the accretion that exercise measures, the big play that this exercise coachs pulled open heavy curtain. . . . . .
Inchoate moment, mom returns ability to wear the train of thought that strength gives an elder sister to explain answering question and intellectual dot, when the child feels to understand, still can give out encouragement smile, regrettablly is, good times don't last long.
Slowly, the sound of topic of the speech began to raise decibel gradually, roar increasing, all sorts of " clumsy " , " stupid " , " one-track mind " the language explodes from time to tome piece, still can give the daughter occasionally say to cry, this kind of moment, I basically dare not go out sitting room, that setting is horrible feeling really.
Nevertheless, such practice did not obtain the result of expectation, study efficiency of the child did not get effective promotion, become more and more cowardly instead, later, we realize such practice is inappropriate, changed manner and way stage by stage, the picture of mother Ci Zixiao just returned us afresh this little family.
Let the child experience your angst, helpless at solving a problem
Present child, assuming exceed us far in those days study pressure, course is close, study course is much, besides the school attend class requirement of content, work, use after school time to attend class of all sorts of interest classes, take lessons after school even, increase a class, do much extracurricular exercise, most time of the child is thrown in study, below this kind of condition, the child is original very tired out, and, the child of elementary school, endurance, perseverance, dedicated force, physical strength is finite, job of long study, writing, bring easily wearily, the mood of exhaustion, allergy.
If this moment, you make mistake because of the child's exercise, study is not serious, take a look, explain without what understand you wait for a reason, show the sentiment of excessive angst, be agitated, undertake rebuke to the child, scold, look without good look, such practice, although can drain your break down mood, helpless however solve a problem at helping the child.
Such practice, the child will be more nervous, bring about the child easily to produce the feeling of confused, lose, the target that right study and meaning generate the sentiment that baffle and collides. And, the reprimand that mom relapses, can let the child produce the viewpoint of value with negative ego, think oneself are no good, do not do, how to try hard to was not used, generate abandonment idea then, to the child's intelligence development causes negative effect.
Adjust state of mind, it is very important to build full range
No matter the child is behaved how be like person meaning very much, you should understand a bit, "The child is my one's own " !
The child is in growing process, hard to avoid encounters various problems, the place in the process that the characteristic that this is the child, intelligence develops appears easily necessarily, every child has the place that he is good at, you must realise the characteristic of own child and good qualities, build relatively comfortable family atmosphere to the child, help child develops interest habit, build right study, read, interest be fond of of motion.
In addition, as parents, must set oneself an example to others, the child is in the home when, do not watch TV as far as possible, do not play a mobile phone, accompany the child to chat more, when child learning writes line of business, you can read a book more, do do chore, the act that uses oneself will to the child make model.
Affirm the child's effort, the result that compares the child is more important
The way of life is very long, also meet very wonderful, studying result is not life is exclusive. As parents, you can value study result of the child, after all a kind of affirmation of the effort that this is pair of children, ability, but, you should see the effort that child place gives more, want child reason to throw time energy to had done his only, so the wonderful life that such child need not worry about to future cannot walk out of him.
Affirm the child's effort, than affirming the child's grade, can invigorate the travel before the child is strenuous more.
