Before discussing this topic, I want to say the case beside. My cousin is 25 years old when established oneself company, the effort that passes oneself is in center of provincial capital city a sector of an area buys a house, and bought big the car of hundred thousands of. Although economic actual strength can not represent this certainly,the individual has many outstanding. But he is the person of the earliest independence in our brother sister.
So I tell the story that tells him, in me the cousin is a few years old when, my uncle likes game very much, a De Chaotian was defeated in the home, still be in debt two. Aunt of a lot of years of uncle dare not return even the home, because bout home is one house,want the person of debt. But even if is to be below so embarrassed circumstances, my aunt still did not leave this family, maintained domestic heavy burden alone however.
So my aunt wants respecting possibly to the influence of the cousin to speak of in one's childhood from the cousin, the educational consciousness of aunt is very strong, very small when, cousin with respect to nurturance good habits and customs, read habit and thinking habit. Even if aunt was not accompanied later,be beside the cousin, she still can call to the cousin every week, know the square respect extent that the cousin lives and learns, say with its they are mothers child, be inferior to saying more like the friend. Although be below in that way predicament, my aunt still lets a cousin learn the calligraphy that he likes and brushwork.
The business that makes my impression the deepest is, cousin university when want to learn the computer, aunt special approval, spend tens of thousands of far money to let a cousin groom school study, tens of thousands of yuan easy to notting allow for their family at that time. But cousin extraordinary also try to make a good showing, had not graduated by Shanghai an enterprise with monthly pay the pay of 20 thousand was invited. The cousin also does not have because of this drift along, graduation hind accumulated a few capital two years, preparation does poineering work, aunt borrowed ten do poineering work to the cousin.
Aunt from only then coming to be without giving thought to eventually on spirit still is economically, make great effort to support a cousin from beginning to end, she also did not abandon herself, she is very outstanding sale, unlike average rural woman, her vision is very original. The cannot leave aunt successfully foresight of the cousin, accredit and support.
Of course you also can say, although some people did not get maternal care, not small success also was gained after he is grown, the teleplay that sows like the closest heat " Dou Ting is good " , ming Yu never had not gotten maternal love, but she still very successful. But become you to look carefully, she passes not happily, she is very chill selfish even. Ming Yu's heart is very painful, she is in in one's childhood that family is almost " transparent " . Had not been loved, also do not have by " see " over- .
I also am person parent, the achievement of aunt makes me special have comprehend. As the mother
Above all, want to develop safe sense of the child, 3 years old before wholeheartedly company is fundamental key is decided in the character that gives the child. Have the child of safe feeling, he is self-confident, he can face this world with the state of mind of active, humanitarian.
Next, develop the child's good habit, common saying says, the habit decides disposition, disposition decides a destiny. Want the habit from good with respect to education at the beginning child so.
Then, love child but respect him, every child is independent person, should disentomb as parents interest interest of the child and potential.
Finally, hold the convention of lifelong study. Want the child's very good guiding, depending on merely already some experience do not pass far, otherwise breaks the capability that promotes oneself, establish good example to the child on one hand, on the other hand substantial knowledge can make a person more sagacious, and educational child needs to use wisdom by chance.
Altogether, make oneself first gift becomes a mother.
