Fu only appoint Wang Hongmei of volunteer of expert of interlocution of specially invite psychology, a Wang Hongmei of date psychology advisory division.
[one, likely your parental affection business is small. ]
"Parents is the child allow teacher " , the child is a piece of white paper, also be parental photocopy, this original has father and mother what, can duplicate what to child body. The child learns through imitating, parental every word and deed, every act can be acquired by the child.
So you can see: The scholarly family walks out of the child of business of cultured, tall affection, and domestic cruel family walks out of the home cruel person or by the home cruel person.
One sought advice from division friend yesterday outside lecture, of the person that got attend a lecture speak very highly of, we a flock of friends are in group in discuss and congratulate her, at this moment, a Tong Yin is in group in rang: "Aunt your conversation is really Orphean, hear of you lecture is very successful today! Congratulation congratulation aunt! " be group advocate the home still is in on the child of nursery school, we are very amazed quotient of this child affection is too high! Get laudatory friend says: Quotient of your mother condition is high, your affection quotient is as high as mom!
The parents of tall affection business rears the child that gives tall affection trader.
[2, yourself is lazy, do not be willing to change and grow. ]
I once had seen a person, affection business is extremely small, conversation is particularly straight, his brains is very clever, be a talent almost, have the job with very high income, him appearance is good still also, but the dead of a tone. He dates to arrive many years old 40 all the time from many years old 20, still be in up to now in dating. Date recently, others introduced a girl of 30 years old to him, the result says on him: You grow commonly also, the age is not small also, I also was not carried, otherwise we two try? The girl twists a head to go, dated to fail again.
Introducer persuades him: Do you talk can a few more euphemistic ah? So straight whose love hears white word?
But he says: I tell the truth do not have a fault!
Truth is right, but injure a person.
Affection quotient is high, it is conference speech. Affection quotient is high, when others is together with you, feel comfortable namely, yourself is comfortable also. But if you are not willing to make others comfortable, who can make you comfortable?
[3, do not be willing to change and grow, also be business manifests affection lowly actually. ]
An advertisement word says well: "The person that the world is punishing those not to learn " .
The person that rejects to grow acquires happy life very hard!
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? Wang Hongmei, the country is advisory division of 2 class psychology, intermediate vocational guidance division. Academician of Chinese mental hygiene, expert of association of Chinese mental hygiene tells person of division instructor, commonweal. Be familiar with cure of psychoanalysis, family, narrative therapeutics. Be good at a domain: Spouse concern, parentage, human communicate.
