The key of the problem is " mix no matter who " , include oneself very close relative? If be if, more infrequent really.
If not be, should belong to normal limits, many people have this problem more or less. It is the scotoma in state of mind only, obstacle the ability that you admire.
A word says: Condonable others, it is him forgiveness actually.
Because you are fed up with the other side, it is actually found a place for in the heart a cage, close TA inside, you must defend cage from beginning to end. But in fact, TA is not inside, only what you work hard is being defended. Can say only so: You are quite foolish!
If you do not want to be stupid, be necessary to promote the capability of appreciation.
Yes, appreciation is a kind of ability.
Same person, somebody can be admired, somebody cannot be admired however, have nothing to do with the person that be admired so, with " I " about.
Substantially, explicit world is our consciousness only is projectile, become you to cannot admire another person so, actually is to cannot admire his. Alleged, do not have some things, to do not come out. So, do you admire yourself?
Of course, oneself scotoma, oneself cannot see, unless you have interior mirror.
You can try " divisional " , but when you are fed up with the other side, be in next divisional is fed up with the what of the other side? Do not like others to give a cup of your tea with milk like you, you can distinguish the what that does not like tea with milk is falling, it is candy too much, the grandma is too much, what be still. Knew this is nodded, you are OK " mobile " -- do not hamper you go approbating, admire the side with other TA even.
You also can try him exercise " user thinking " ability, make oneself complete enter the part of the other side namely, enter the place of the other side, perhaps you can discover perhaps you are fed up with a certain behavior of the other side, but at least the motive of understandable the other side.
Actually in the final analysis, those who adjust is yourself's view, the other side won't be denounced because of you not be fed up with the other side and suffer how many loss.
Brief answer, wish to be inspired somewhat, wish to take off at an early date " foolish " : )
