The reason with gregarious and scared the most primary disease is self-abased.
And self-abased come from at two respects:
1. about oneself.
If expect to oneself too Utopian, and the level that cannot reach satisfaction, can arise self-abased, think oneself do not have ability. He can magnify overly to the defect of oneself, bring about too low to him evaluation.
2. about with all round the person's relation.
Had evaluated to oneself when a person low, so see when him a little a bit more outstanding person, meet have a sense of inferiority. If at that time the individual tries to criticize to him,mock, he can produce huge psychology drop. What he brings to avoid this kind of drop is painful, should see others next time, he can avoid them intentionally, avoid a likelihood mock and embarrassed.
So, it is scared to gregarious generation that gregarious and scared disease is not, the harm that brings to the likelihood in socialization however generated fear. And scared generation at self-abased.So, when a person cannot as harmonious as oneself coexist, right all round when idle talk broken words of the person cannot be handled very well, both addition, can let him tend shut oneself, detest all socialization. If he must enter this kind of gregarious environment in, he can produce fear and uneasiness.
Everybody does not like the label that be stuck, especially self-abased person.
"You do not have that ability "
"I am sorry, you do not suit this job "
"Was gotten, you do not work "
" by you? Your what also won't, know to eat! Know to eat!!
"Foolish does the station do what then? Come over to greet sb with 2 aunts! Come over to greet sb with 2 aunts!!
This kind of view should be all round you when, you want what to change involuntarily, can choose to leave instead, go to a new place, hope oneself begin anew.
But, when self-abased became a custom, your true very difficult give up.
Once you are in new place,be affixed not carefully again a variety of label, you can think adjourn again, go round and round, vicious circle.
A person is self-abased long, by a variety of label exert a subtle influence on, can know oneself finally with this kind of label.
If he lives in the label that is defined all the time, can bore to oneself, right all round the person is cheesed.
Serious consequence is: Such person can be changed into depressed disease patient.
How should prevent so?
Above all, the acknowledge that is pair of ego wants correct.
You can take a diary this, above the thing that writes down what oneself want to do and had been done to insist to come down everyday.
For instance:
Hold to ran everyday, even if run 10 minutes only;
Reading professional book everyday, even if read two 3 pages only;
Do these, want you to be in namely everyday in the diary, see oneself progress and effort, understand oneself are not the person of without a single redeeming feature.
We can be called this diary " successful log " , of account is you at ordinary times the bagatelle of make it, build self-confidence slowly to let you namely. You can be added ceaselessly into new task content, when you are finished, can have feeling of a kind of achievement. Regarded feeling of this kind of achievement as when you habit, you can discover you are different really.
Next, it is right all round the correct acknowledge of the view.
Had correct acknowledge to oneself when you, so how does others look you, matter with you? And the view that you also cannot change another person.
A person can be without reason really be fed up with you, just can be opposite next you are captious. But he is the costar in your life only, and do you regard him as to the utmost leading role?
You should say to oneself: Calculate my make an exhibition of oneself, consider what I do not quite good, but you are a costar only, I just am leading role.
