A few days ago I see somebody asks on the net: Does pure friendship still exist between the men and women?
I see comment area somebody replies, "Have! Have a pair of such men and womens, two people live together a piece of bed, raise the child together, patronize an old person together. Whats are carried painstakingly together, what blame also suffers together, but it is each other do not agree to meet the other side a finger, you look, is there purer than this friendship? Is there purer than this friendship??
Listen go up very interesting, can be said how those medium people also laugh not to come out however, the heart can feel Bei is cool only. Actually, more and more marriage are evolving such -- asexuality marriage.
Asexuality marriage is to point to husband and wife if do not have physiology disease or accident, be as long as however above of a month does not have tacit sexual life, it is asexuality marriage.
A lot of is experiencing the person of asexuality marriage, sufferring every day. I had viewed a group of data before, sexual life arrives from harmony bored use two years only, the scale of Chinese asexuality marriage is as high as 30% , it is in the 20 husband and wife of Chinese that arrive 64 years old, every month connects the person of more than 1/4 one-time life is less than.
Asexuality marriage makes a kind of general appearance already, the most terrible is a lot of people had not realized this problem, still regard it as unexpectedly the normal in a kind of matrimony.
A person that call in says, she and man get married 5 years, feeling all the way smooth, after giving birth to the child however, encountered pair of husband to raise the question that does not have sexual desire. Two people already half an year has done not have sexual life more, everyday in the evening, husband resembles " hungry wolf " ask she wants euqally, sometimes she feels embarrassed reject to be able to cooperate constrainedly, the knot has not begun formally because very ache and ended. As time passes, she is flat and direct refuse.
At the beginning she feels this and it doesn't matter, after all two people still love each other, meet everyday the greeting on routine utterance, on the action caress, do not say to have much happiness, also calculate comfortable. But the husband begins to show all sorts of grievance recently, interrogatory doesn't she love herself? Why to install repeatedly also do not agree to be installed for oneself? Say to want to divorce even. Until at this moment, she just realizes the seriousness of the problem.
Actually, sexual life is the indispensable harmonic agent in matrimony, if one party is yearning for sexual life, other one party is decisive however refuse, can give the effect with be brought certain on the body not only, if do not have sexual life for a long time to be able to bring about sexual organs premature senility, hormone to secrete,do not stabilize etc, mentally also is met lose, be full of frustrate feeling, make bad conduct extremely easily.
Resemble this husband cannot accomplishing understanding, still can censure inscrupulously to the wife, two people cannot face a problem jointly, can let a wife get hurt only, bring about hate mood generation, the degree of aggravating frigidity.
So, the asexuality life that what creates this kind of suffering to be able to 't bear character be after all?
1, the pressure of the life.
The life pressure of modern is greater and greater, facing the worry that comes from surface of square side of family, job, society everyday, fretted and disturbed, do not have at all easy and comfortable but character. Boil the job of exorbitant intensity when you, good return the home not easily, tired paralysis falls on the bed, although other in part has interest again, be afraid also is unable to do what one wants very much to do.
2, the move of centre of gravity.
The of one mind after the woman is giving birth to the child attacks to go up in the child, serious oversight marital demand. Again together with has the child to be beside in the evening, act inconvenience, flat and direct judged the man read aloud want, do " live apart " the life. Then, bring about vicious circle, bilateral sexual desire drops continuously, formed a kind of habit instead finally.
3, dissatisfactory to sexual quality.
The sexual life of high quality spends a requirement to agreeing bilaterally extremely tall, if the libidinal cycle of 2 people and sexual life satisfaction spend insufficient harmony, create contradiction very easily, make both sides goes of purpose evasive. Happen extremely easily between a lot of husband and wife that give birth to the child at this o'clock, because give birth to the child to be able to give,the female's physiology brings a few changes on function, can affect quality of life of husband and wife more or less.
4, emotion of husband and wife becomes weak.
Of course, we also did not eliminate a few husband and wife to do not have feeling really. Ever a person that seek advice says, she and husband all the time interdepend, share everything between each other, the husband is conscientious, earn money raise the home, she is in charge of photograph husband godchild, filial husband's father and mother, in everybody eye, they are the example of conjugal love, let everybody envy unceasingly.
But in fact, only their husband and wife knows, two people had done not have sexual life one many year, look conjugal love to have by day add, arrived night is the same as a bed in all pillow, can say nothing however, those who do not have warmth caress, if lentic pool is common noiseless. She says frankly two people do not love the other side early candidly each other, just baffle otherwise should continue for the child put up with goes down.
Actually, no matter be above which kinds of reason, the both sides in husband and wife cannot enjoy sexual good fortune, it is extremely dangerous signal. The natural desire that sexual problem implies the body not just is couldn't get contented, can affect the feeling between husband and wife accordingly more, in me a lot of pairs of husband and wife had seen in seeking advice, after sexual life has a problem, the disposition after two people get along becomes very irratable, see the other side what not pleasing to the eye, what these negative energy take two people is daily in getting along, feeling the burst with respect to little.
