Everybody is good, I am to cross benevolence big Ren Jun of psychology, very glad to communicate jointly with such means and everybody, joint study. Above all I do not have a girlfriend, next I pretend I have a girlfriend, I had a girlfriend really finally -- small cross gentleman, and she learns psychology. Below, I share the girlfriend that one learns psychology with everybody is what kind of experience after all.
I myself learn psychology namely, the girlfriend also learns psychology, two psychological collision are together, everyday daily and interactive feeling resembles is incorporeal analysis communication, tired happy move. The following content originates the life, prep above lives!
For instance: This morning, we come twice to advisory room, she complains with me the tea with milk last night became bad did not drink.I: "How bad "
She: "In the restriction that is put in front of the bicycle, ride too quickly by crack up " (one face is subdued)
I: "Darling, you are not not to like to drink tea with milk, you see you subconscious in also do not want to let you drink, will prevent you with mode of such a kind of behavior. But, darling, you can tell me, why did you begin to ride a bicycle, you are not all the time very be fed up with cycle, I think because won't ride,you are all the time, be fed up with so. Be fed up with so..
She: "Do not have, meet all the time, just cycle too tired, do not want to move. Nevertheless I discover what had held out by bike now, I begin to like to go up cycled. I begin to like to go up cycled..
I: "Ah! Can you explain why can you appear so unusual action? All behavior backside have psychological reason "
She: "Because rested that day, I do not want to sell outside the dot, go having a meal with respect to next buildings, be disinclined to walk, go by bike, discover suddenly, the sensory pretty that cycle is marvellous. I am to commute by bike nearly most, you see you did not pay close attention to me (complain + censure) "
I: "But, you have discovery to drink tea with milk, by bike, with the behavior mode before you be contrary, the reason that you analyse this backside " (rapidly branch off topic)
She: "Have, I did an ego analysis last night: I drank a lot of tea with milk recently, I let very uncomfortable after be being drunk, some arrhythmia, this brings about me directly in the evening insomnia, rise not to come in the morning, be late to avoid to go to work, avoid the fastigium that block a car up, a travel way that I must change me again -- cycle, the reason with this actually real backside is me to myself current situation dissatisfactory, because resent, cannot change again temporarily, this kind of weak feeling makes me very indignant, with respect to the means that atttacks with a kind of ego expression came out. " (indignant, sad, helpless, fully faint give stubborn, look I am well to feel distressed)
I: "Darling, what difficulty do you encounter recently? If you are willing to say, I am willing to listen very much, I am all the time beside you for company you " (hold in the arms rapidly, pull little black room to be comforted one time)
Above is a small part only. Must say, a girlfriend that learns psychology feels special really club, not only nowhere is not analysed in ground ego, and when quarrelling, all sorts of advisory technology take turns enter the court.
For instance, quarrel some --I: "I a moment ago was opposite your manner is too abominable, it is my problem, my self-communion one, it is me cranky sex character made. But later you speak not to seek advice from a technology with what psychology with me! ! This makes me very angry! This makes me very angry!!
She: "Technology? What technology do I use? " (open-eyed)
I: "You used particularly much technology! Even I does each point out to you come? " (angry)
She: "Good! I am curious! What technology do I use? " (one face is muddled force)
I: "I do not know how to be told. "I do not know how to be told..
She: "Have a try. "Have a try..
I: "You look! ! ! ! ! You still say trashy technology! You were used ' encourage ' ! ! ! ! " (the shriek)
She: "Boil! What should I say otherwise? ? You teach however teach me! " (the heart breaks down)
I: "Are you in again guide me? ? " (suspect shape)
She: "I go! ! I am done not have! ! I understood now why did you a moment ago get angry, because you feel I came out the state belt in advisory room,be, I am advisory division, the person that I should call in you, of such has dominion security that I am the authority that the palm controls, and in the relation in this paragraph of friend, you became exposed weakness be guided, is this lets you feel insecure? ? ??
I: "You look! ! You were used ' content reacts ' and ' affection reacts ' ! " (grasp vulnerable point rapidly)
She: "Boil! ! ' content reacts ' and ' affection reacts ' it is the person that call in after stating, what advisory division does feedback moment to use is good! ! I a moment ago was obviously ' in all affection ' ! ! ! " (the heart breaks down + 1)
I: "You look! ! ! You still say you are trashy technology! ! !!
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(had been enraged so that the seven apertures in the human head bleeds, after making nap a bit, check oneself immediately, adjust position, say then)
She: "Not, this is you is projectile, I did not want to make the meaning of advisory division absolutely in recognizant level! I did not want to make the meaning of advisory division absolutely in recognizant level!!
I: "Your subconscious? ? " (chase after closely do not abandon)
She: "My subconscious I am in charge of? ? ? It is good that I daydream tonight and it discusses! ! Your demand is too high! Even what I am in charge of me is subconscious! ! " (break down again)
I: "Good, it is anyway, I feel tonight is my problem, not be your problem, basically be me in disposition cranky, let me feel the thing is how, can feel such others also feeling, but you are not actually such, but my mood is awaited in those day had not controlled, erupted. " (the tone is weak come down)
She: "Be! Did my bad luck die? ? But I am very glad also, at least you are conveyed now came out, such my meetings understand you many a little bit. Your feeling is very important to me. (picture wind turns warm) you do not know me a moment ago much perturbed! Did not know to produce what thing, do not know how to should do! Do not know how to should do!!
I: "Good, at least you are very genuine. At least you are very genuine..
She: "You are very genuine also, and self-communion capability is particularly strong. And self-communion capability is particularly strong..
I: "Are you in ' positive attention ' ? ? ? ? ? " (grasp vulnerable point again)
She: "... " (day, the heart breaks down again)
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Besides, have a girlfriend that learns psychology the professional skill to raise oneself, hold the convention that reads a book 1 hour in the evening everyday, used behavior treatment to oneself unexpectedly, particular operation is everyday in the evening 7:00~8:00 put out all networks, time 1 hour, investment of systemic a person's mind goes in book. After holding to a month, hum, the effect is apparent, weight grew 5 jins, ask her the reason, hum, the answer is very genuine, read every time after finishing, can reward him snack, him feeling saw a book exhaust mental, want to fill, good, you are fat you are justifiable!
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