Fu only appoint Cheng Yuan of volunteer of expert of interlocution of specially invite psychology:
I can say not, you are no good. I can say to part company, you are no good. Such person has really beside us. Everything can I refuse, others must is with my opinion accurate, this kind of behavior is not the expression of tall affection business apparently, but also not be only " affection business is small " 3 words can generalize.
Above all, look from human relations in society, this is a kind of very selfish behavior.Anything can I reject others, be a kind of model in fact it is a center with ego. Everything considers his feeling only, do not know for other consider, more do not talk to go up conversion thinks, such person, it is very selfish actually. If be to follow such person to make friend, become the good friend with very close friendly relations very hard generally speaking; If be to following such person to talk about love, that still asks you be sure to look before you leap.
Next, look from character development, this is a kind of very babyish behavior.In the process that grows in children, he has a process to the understanding of the world and other. In the period of time that just was born in the child, he thinks he is whole world, can be a center with ego of course; Again later, he can discover slowly it seems that this world does not turn round him, natural meeting begins to have " other " concept.
And some by parents' doting child, often can miss this crucial one class, can continue to regard oneself as the center of the world. This attributes phenomenon of arrearage of developmental of a kind of character actually.
Finally, look from psychological level, this is a kind of very self-abased behavior.Why must oneself reject others, and cannot accept others to refuse? Say simply, because fear to be harmed,be.
This is just like when walking a dog, two dogs encounter, generally speaking, a kind big dog dog can compare golden wool, Labuladuo friendly and gentle, and a kind doggie dog can behave auspicious baby, Tai Di have aggressiveness quite, grimace in pain, bark furiously unceasingly. It is to think those who offend to let the other side feel he can not be good nevertheless actually, will not bully me, only this just.
So, take " affection business " the thing is no point for the word of such perfunctory, the problem wants to dare to face, inadequacy wants to dare to improve, only such ability progress ceaselessly, true implementation ego grows.
