I feel this should depend on the following at 4 o'clock.
The first: Is parents to be in what choose when is the child how old to leave other?
From the child health grows and psychology bears force angle will tell, it is the child leaves the harm that gets in different incident smaller in parents greatly more of course. In the child very no matter the hour brings up authority to put in which one party 's charge, the care that the child gets in growing process is half-baked, more or less can psychology of this pair of children and disposition have a few effects. Had arrived in the child after certain age, cannot accept parents possibly to leave other again, appear accordingly then all sorts of problems, this arrived at 2 o'clock.
The 2nd: Is parents why to communicate them to want to leave other with the child of this thing?
No matter the child still knows love, marriage,be how to return a responsibility, parents should honest, patient ground explains why they choose to divorce, tell him the divorce is a regular job, when the problem that two people that be together appeared to cannot mediate, continue together to be able to be harmed each other only, but this is because of the person different, divorce both neither is a bad thing, also not be the ending that all love, marriage moves toward necessarily, and although parents divorced, still also be his parents, he can see them at any time among them any person.
The 3rd: Whether does parents have the action of the mutual harm such as brawl, dispute in around leaving other?
Suggest all parents do not quarrel before the child as far as possible, and arrived to must divorce really settlement degree, also ask for the child as far as possible good had gotten together to come loose. If parents is in ceaseless from different around brawl, dispute is more than, the child if year young meeting fears, affect health to grow then, if the child arrived certain age, no matter whether understood love, marriage, the metropolis is right love, marriage, close affection loses confidence on certain level, can cause shut oneself, traitorous wait for a problem, if arrived really this kind of situation, guard the sentiment that just must note the child at any time, words and deeds please, try dredge.
The 4th: There is doubt on this problem when the child when, how does father and mother have conciliatory?
No matter be in the child young when still be after its are grown, parents leaves other this thing can be for certain in child heart, a few doubt generate when the child faces a society, for example why other little girl has father mother, and he has only among them, why mother of father of other little girl lives together, and his father mother should live apart, and again some growner, there can be a few chilly phenomena to appear between the classmate. This moment, to not the child that arrogate to oneself conveys, custody just is about to notice to observe the child's mood, words and deeds, enquire carefully next, if the child still keeps silence, the problem that guards square best all likelihood then undertakes dredge, for example parents divorces, study result is bad, the family is hard up to be waited a moment etc; And of interrogatory to coming home directly parent, this kind of phenomenon is better still, at least the child is not a choice bear alone in the heart frowzily, guard the casuse and effect that just is about to divorce to be told at this moment listen with the child, tell him even finally, although father mother divorced, but father or mom still believes love, believe marriage, because love, marriage is good, also hope to favorite boy can be encountered after him or the girl, next the life of happy joy goes down.
Nevertheless, no matter above 4 problems handle how, more or less can the child get a few influences.
In half-baked family, the love that the child gets, education, sexual distinction is affected, also be half-baked, this goes against child normality the nurturance of case, the meeting is self-abased, traitorous perhaps, close, or the boy leanings Nancy, the girl slants the male is changed, but these phenomena depend on not completely whether does parents divorce, the environment that grows with the child however, education that get, environment that gets education waits be closely bound up a moment, so, no matter whether parents leaves other, should create to grow goodly as far as possible to the child environment.
As to go up in love marriage view, my view also is to mix above is same. Parents leaves other is the closest from oneself influence incident admittedly, but want parental explanation only dredge is good, good, actually the influence is not very big, but parental processing is bad, the influence is met very serious, the child can not believe love, do not believe marriage, arise then reject psychology.
But marriage of the love that fails socially now, cracked cans be found everywhere, the love view that this also meet pair of children, marriage view causes an effect, so in the final analysis or the psychology that should do good child are taught.
No matter why be planted,the circumstance falls, education child has powerful, to state of mind, ability faces all problems quite bravely, healthy, happy grow.
