Li Mei Professor Jin has said, before the education of child disposition wants to be in 12 years old, passed 12 years old, disposition basically won't be changed, what can change is the person's understanding only. The person's understanding, can change in lifetime, but disposition is not, 12 years old before finalized the design.
And 12 years old before, differentiate basically again 0~3 year old, 3~6 year old, 6~12 year old 3 phase, actually blame two level are most important before.
3 years old before, parents should let the child feel enough credit and security. Had better be parents can look after children personally, be in a year old at least half before such, otherwise you can discover, do not follow the child that parents lives together in one's childhood, have with parents very big scanty from feeling, if be by grandfather grandma or the child that grandmother Lao father brings up, if they say very listen, the word that you say is very offensive go in.
3 arrive 6 years old, this phase cannot make child tie too much, also cannot make the child inordinate, want to let the child know what thing can be done, what thing cannot be done. The child of this phase, the child can have a few normally peculiar think of a way and a few peculiar problems, parents should be treated patiently, should not strangle.
6 arrive 12 years old, it is child disposition and affective are made up for period, that is to say, if the child often still loves to get angry in this phase, disposition termagancy, pass educational guiding, still can transform the child, but after arriving 12 years old, the child entered adolescence, want to alter the child's nature really, basically impossible.
So, parents still should value inchoate education of the child.
